To feel like I can't relax in my garden?

[HannahHut]

My next door neighbour is an alcoholic/drug user. I'm used to this, she has lived next door to us for about 9 years, routinely has the police out every week and is generally a nusience. We try to ignore.

She constantly has other drug users/alcoholics in her house for parties and the like. Since the sun has been out she has had around 5 people drinking in her garden from around 9:30 to when it's dark/cold, maybe 10.

This would be fine, it's her garden, however she had such a loud voice and cackling laugh, you can usually hear her through the house walls. I just feel like I can't relax in my garden because she is so loud and I can hear everything including explitives.

I suppose I just wanted to vent a little and ask aibu to think, yes, it's your garden but she should be considering those around her??

I feel for you OP not sure what to suggest but you're not being unreasonable for wanting some nice time in your garden.

She should, but sadly I cant see what you can do about.

I can see that it isn't ideal, OP, but I'm not sure if there's anything you can do. Her being in the her garden and "talking and laughing loudly until 10pm" isn't really something you can make official complaints about.

Why do you feel you can't relax? Do you worry that they might start trying to talk to you or will be watching/commenting on what you are getting up to in your garden? As long as you make sure that you can't see into her garden, she and her friends will have no idea you are there (believe me, they aren't thinking about you at all) and you can do whatever you want in your garden.

Or is it just the noise?

I suppose it's because of the parties until 6am and the police coming to ask us questions every week and now it's hearing her grating voice all day long outside. It's like we can't escape her, like I said, I know it's her garden but I just don't want to her hearing effing and jeffing and using the c word and slurs all day long.

Next door on the other side have kids and they're out all day screaming and playing on the trampoline but that is fine because a) they're kids and b) I don't have the same issues with that neighbour.

You said until 10? That's fine council wouldn't be interested.

She should be more considerate, whether she will ia probably another matter.

Some people are just inconsiderate. E.g. I don't mind hearing a little bit of music from neighbours either side as long as it's not anti social. Yesterday someone further down the street behind us had a playlist on so loud that I could hear every word and they weren't even my direct neighbours. The sun makes some people noticeably rude.

I don't want you to get me wrong. The 10 thing is a red herring. I just wanted to paint a picture of the situation. My other neighbours are also out this late and I would be too. The difference is the noise level/content of what the group says.

I just want a little time in the garden were I can't hear her. 😥

I understand if you just want a bit of a moan, op. But if you want actual opinions, then :

A) Move. I'm serious. This woman has now become your bitch eating crackers (ie: everything she does you now find unbearable) and that isn't getting better.

B) Suck it up. She has wild parties, the police are called, she has alcoholism - and you are throwing a pity party of one because you "just want a little time to enjoy your garden without having to hear her swearing"? You have bigger problems with your neighbour than overhearing some curse words while you mow the lawn, op.

I had the horror of my usual dog walk being disturbed by a sweary family camping in the adjacent field. Hearing a woman from deepest Manchester telling a young child that she was fucking pissed off with her and she was really getting on her tits was a bit of an eye opener. Couldn't stand 9 years of it.

I think it's the alcohol that makes her so loud. I have just finished uni and moved back home. I'm forbidden from saying anything (as much as I'd love to).

Honestly halls were peaceful compared to her.

I know we have a lot of issues with her but I think I was looking forward to some sunbathing and this is the last straw. I know there's not much I can do but I just needed a moan.