Is ignorance allowed?

[Nixpix1]

I was invited to a friends son 3rd birthday party on Saturday. Myself and my 4 DC went. DH was not in the mood so stayed at home. As it goes I got there and a went to say hi to everyone I knew, all bar one lady. She grassed me up to ss about 3 years ago acuusing me of hitting my DC, all 4 of them.

There is some history with her. She gossiped about me to everyone, telling them I'm an awful person and God knows what else. Over the last 12 years I've always heard some gissiop she has spread about me and how much she hates me. Some People came and told me what was being said and that common friends were being told that if I get invited she won't come to their events. She always turned up thou. Literally there were people who hated on me for no reason but for the pure gossip she spread about me, people who didn't know me hated on me. Went to see her at her house and settle things with her but things got heated and her revenge was going to ss about me.

Getting back to the point, so I dot acknowledge her and she doesn't acknowledge me. What I want to know is what would you do in my situation? Would u keep ur distance? would u let it go and be the bigger person and at least say hello.

I'd give my brightest smile and a warm Hello! and then move away.

I would politely ignore. As in totally ignore her existence unless it becomes more rude not too (say she’s stood in a doorway you want to go through) and it that situation I would smile wildly and ask her to move as if she was my best friend.

It will make everyone else feel less awkward, and make them see you as reasonable. If you’re lucky it will also make her uncomfortable...

Don’t speak to her. She sounds like the type who’d love the drama.

Being honest, I would keep my distance, as this person sounds like a troublemaker. I'd probably say 'hello' rather than blank her, because a gossipy person would use the blanking as fuel for more gossip, but I'd do my best not to get drawn into anything that might give the excuse for more drama to be created.

Well first off I'd be asking what her fucking problem is and why is she spreading bullshit? What have you ever done to her? And then yes big smile and "hiyaaaaaaaaa hun"

I wouldn’tly actively seek her out, but if I was a room with her, I would be civil and friendly. Prove you are the better person.

I don’t understand your title. Is ignorance of what allowed? SS practices, assuming you weren’t in fact hitting your children?

Ignorance of her existence.

Her problem is I married her best friend.

Would any of you MNs want to bother with a person who uses your children to hurt you and in the process could loose ur children

Simply issuing a nod of the head or a brief polite greeting in a public space isn't the same as "bothering" with someone.

I think it says more about your friends bothering with someone who would treat their friend like that tbh

My closest mate said that no one cuts ties for another in the social circle and it doesn't bother me that she's there. It makes me laugh Infact coz she's fake as a person and she makes the extra effort to talk to everyone I make friends with. Quite funny to watch. She's actually in this circle coz she's related to one of the main family in this social cricle.