Dn eating

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Dn is 2.5 years old and tiny. She’s always been super skinny and she is very resistant to eating. Eg today she ate a mouthful of breakfast at 8 am, a couple of spoons of lunch at 1 and nothing else yet.
No snacks ever offered or requested.
Bil and sil quite worried.
They still give her a kind of follow on formula at bedtime (it’s fortified with cereals, a Scandinavian brand) which she laps up and they do this just so she’s getting something.
aibu in thinking this could possibly be making her lack of appetite worse? I think they should cut that out but they are reluctant......
She’s their baby of course but I feel like saying something based on being an outside observer.

I don’t think formula at bedtime is the problem. Mine were still breastfed in the evening at that age and it wasn’t a replacement for food.

What else could it be, psychological? Sil is a gp and genuinely worried/ flummoxed.

No, please don't say anything. They feel bad enough as it is, and will already be trying everything they can think of.

I had a dc with severe food issues, and there was genuinely nothing worse than other people offering advice and giving us the benefit of their opinion.

What helped you in the end PastBananas, or is it ongoing?
They discuss it with us, I feel like they are asking for help - or maybe just tea and sympathy is needed.

Has she had a blood test to check iron levels etc? We use to give an iron supplement (as recommended by the GP) called minavex / minadex - it's contains iron which helps increase the appetite. Might be best getting DNs bloods done as a starting point.