Aibu to ask mumsnet to give me a kick up the arse? Ex and assertiveness

[SadEnoughAlready]

I'll cut to the chase...
ex has shat on me big time - cheated on me as soon as my back was turned, and has left me with nothing. When I caught him cheating his attitude completely changed to "oh I don't know who I am anymore, have to find myself, don't know if I love you or want to be a dad to our child"
I'm pregnant with our first child, btw. Planned, not that it matters now!
The thing is, the cheeky prick just won't leave me alone. It's like he wants to rub it in.
We've been split for just over a week...
I'm happy to keep in loose contact (ie updating him at scans. Giving him any crucial info etc etc).
But he keeps nagging me for things.
Including his cv edited and other stuff I said I'd do for him (BEFORE I found out he was cheating and everything went sideways, mind). He also keeps whining at me about his lack of hours at work, that he's struggling with this and that but he's cut me off financially. Drained our joint account - there wasn't much in there anyway but still.
So why is this shit my problem? He didn't care if I could eat or pay for anything when he cut me off, why should I care now?
But as much as I'm trying to be strong, assertive, calm and rebuff everything all I want to do is scream, cry and yell at him about how fucking UNFAIR he has been to essentially bulldoze my/our life together and still act like everything's about him and he should have all of my attention.
Help, please.

How is he nagging? Why haven't you blocked him?

Block him until the baby is born, or at least tell him to contact you by email only, then filter his emails off into a separate folder and deal with them when you can be bothered. You have enough on your plate.

Email, which is the only contact source I've left open to him I don't want to close that off as that's how I plan to contact him when relevant with LO, particularly once born, with regards to visitation etc
I have already blocked his texts; but we can still phone each other (I don't think he knows that, though. He's never been one to phone anyway). And I have blocked him on all social media.

How do I filter emails into a different box? I use an iCloud email.

You are letting him ruin your pregnancy. Maybe he isn't ready to parent but frankly you don't have that luxury!! Knuckle down to relaxing and focusing on your coming baby. Tbh I would block all ways of contact and have a friend let him know when you are home with the baby. Then there is no more drama until then.

The only way he can make you crazy is of you allow him to. The answer is NO for any of that bullshit he wants from you. Live by the mantra of ignore, ignore, ignore. From this moment on, everything between you is on YOUR terms. No more discussions, and absolutely no compromise.

How the fuck have you not gone absolutely batshit magnum smasher I have no idea! Ok, you want a kick up the arse. Here goes.

This piece of shit is treating you like a skivvy. He is truly having his cake and eating it. And you are bloody well doing the adult, decent thing and calmly and this pathetic dickweed has got the fucking neck to demand more of you?? And then, then he fucking moans. Dear god, you are worth a thousand of this person. He’s a vile, disgusting man. Now, do the intelligent thing and get a bit fucking mad. Do not let this arseclown walk over you anymore. Oh, and I think you’re going to be an amazing mum xx

Tell him you feel that as he choose to leave you feel he can't expect you to be held to past promises...

Just keep saying this...

Also remember what Mrs Brown says "that's nice..." really means...

It's a easy reply to use...

Don't reply with long sentances ... just as few words as possible....

Sounds like he still wants the emotional support of a partner without having to make any effort to support you in return.
Cut him off. Reply only to those messages that are about your child, ignore everything else. Let him go find himself, you concentrate on you!
He's an arsehole.

TheBog it does feel that way to me as well, like he still wants my attention and affection, but wants to be free to shag whoever he wants and not be tied down anymore (we were together for 6 years) Maybe he realises he's pushed me too far but even if I wanted to and he begged me to I think he's done too much now to deserve a second chance and I have too much care for myself to offer one.
I'd love to know wtf he's playing at but more than anything I just want to be left alone... good tips from everyone thank you