Is this tight?

[Ivygarden]

Having a barbecue for DDs 1st birthday this weekend. Gone all-out on food (chicken, sausages, ribs, burgers, salads, potatoes...i.e. not just burger in a bun type-thing) and made puddings etc. Invited about 20 friends with their children. As it’s DDs birthday, I would suspect everyone will bring her a present so would I be unreasonable to ask people to ‘bring a bottle’? Opinions please.

Not TIPPLE! I hate that bloody word!

Sorry.

I was hoping for a different kind of thread- I thought someone would have posted a picture of themselves in a spray on dress, showing any bulges, and we would have to give an opinion on whether or not the dress was too small.

In answer to your request, OP, I would go with the Pimms suggestion and then people can bring other drinks if they like.

I wouldn't ask. I think it is polite for them to ask you whether to bring anything or do it without asking but I think if you are hosting a party, you have to work on the assumption that you will be covering guest's food and drink.

If it’s a wedding then I agree (although lots of people have cash bars).

For a BBQ then it is absolutely fine to say “bring a bottle” and I can’t imagine anyone will bat an eyelid.

I don't think its unreasonable to say you're only providing soft drinks

I WOULD ask because lots of people would bring flowers/chocolates/other gift for hosts if they thought you we doing all the booze, but would bring a bottle instead if they knew it was BYOB...

Nope. I'd say "bring a bottle if you like"

I have never turned up to a BBQ without bringing at least one bottle of wine and something to throw on the BBQ. Most people do the same when they come to our BBQs. In fact, people tend to bring too much. I wouldn't ask people to bring things. They just will. You should ask your family to bring alcohol though as they aren't going to care what you ask them.

This isn’t really the done thing amongst my friends but my real issue would be- what if people dont bring enough? What if they bring a bottle and want more? What if not everyone brings a bottle, what do they drink? What will happen when you RUN OUT OF BOOZE

THe only option in my view is that you’d have to leave the party to purchase booze which is an unexpected expense, means you’ll have to leave the party mid way and also makes you look quite unorganised/ inhospitable

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