Neighbors sodding tractor

[daisymunchero]

So my neighbor has decided that half 8 Friday eve is the correct time to drop the field of silage directly behind our house. It's been beautiful here so all windows still need to be open especially the bedrooms (dormer so only roof windows). My 1 year old was woken 5 mins into the cut I'm so stabby I want to go & flag him down & tell him he's an inconsiderate twat. For context I'm a farmers wife I know stuff needs doing when it needs doing but he's always the same does sod all durning the day & then starts making as much noise as possible all eve so aibu?

You are a bit. He could have a job during the day and run the farm in the evenings. Or he could be short handed. Or it could have been too hot or wet to cut silage.

You know YABU.

If you are a farmer's wife you will know full well that it's just for one evening, it's completely weather and labour dependent and that there is every chance that he got a phone call from the contractor an hour ago to say they would be coming to bale it at X time on X day and he needs to be ready.

Or perhaps he's thinking he will get it out of the way rather than disrupting everyone's sunny bank holiday weekend.

Either way it needs to be done and one way or another he's probably going to piss someone off doing it.

He's a full time farmer on a small farm, he has help but chooses to go at jobs like that in the evenings. We've never said a word but we have a baby now & I don't think it's much to ask to not to play tractors after 7 in the 2 fields around our house ? Baby is back asleep now & I have calmed a bit.

8.30 is hardly the middle of the night is it - and if it's a one off or needs to be done infrequently I think YABU.

X posted. Hate to break it to you but activity in the world doesn't come to a halt because you have had a baby. How do you think parents manage who live in town or suburbs - lawnmowers, children screaming and playing in the garden, practicing musical instruments, cars and motorbikes being revved ++ every night, not just the odd evening.

Well that's knocked the wind out of my sails !! I'm glad I asked now before I went off on a real life rant the jury has spoken iabu I'll just pour myself a glass of wine a get over myself, cheers

Honestly waking up a 1 y/o is low on the list of capital crimes.
In fact it might even not be on it.

I feel for you I really do. I hate trying to keep children asleep during silaging/spaining calves etc etc but it's part of the deal of living on/near farmland.

The thing is as well that it would annoy you just as much tomorrow if he did it over nap time.

You have every right to be annoyed but not much right at all to tell him not to do it.

It's the compromise you have to make for the view and the peace and quiet the rest of the year.

I agree with you Daisy, but seems like you won't get away with saying anything. Enjoy your wine

Are we are all Americans now? Sorry you are so "pissed" at your "neighbor!"

Our neighbour usually cuts his silage in the evenings too, because that's when the contractor can come. We let the kids stay up later to watch the cutting, baling and wrapping.
When you have a baby any noise causes massive rage, but when they get older the tractors are more entertaining than the telly.

What?! Nononono op. You can't just come in here, being unreasonable, and just accept it just like that! You're supposed to stick to your guns, get more and more het up, then flounce! Honestly, AIBU posters these days....

If it helps, they do get used to sleeping through noise. We had some kind of giant farm machine doing stuff in the field at the back of our house at 10pm gone last summer, complete wih massive floodlights, and ds didn't so much as stir. I find white noise can help.

Scrowy your spot on it's so worth it to live here. I think it's to do with the fact that he's a total nob in general that pushes my buttons His elderly Dad is a pure gentleman, they kind of share the farm & I get the feeling dad despairs of him but tries to keep him in check somewhat I'm not looking forward to when it's just him tbh.

So sorry spudlet & I do like a good flounce missed a trick there

I was trying to get my own toddler off to sleep when DH fired up the lawnmower and cut our own grass. I was going to go and tell him not to be so anti-social then realised none of our neighbors have children young enough to still live at home let alone be in bed at 8.30pm so I shhed loudly and accepted that bedtime was even later than usual as it means an annoying weekend job that’s nearly impossible with an awake toddler is done.

I know you know it, as Scrowy says, it's one of those things, but I remember the days when sleep was precious and the baby being woken was a drama. Just remember it's a tiny moment in the grand scheme of it.

It still happens... The 7 year old was woken by our herdsman coming at 8.30 to roll in grass seeds the other night (empty flat rollers sound like a flipping steam engine!) 'Mummy I thought it was a steam train' 'it isn't, go back to bed'. Much later found after chatting to the lads on the yard found her asleep in our bed 'in case it woke me up again, I wouldn't be scared there' (5 year old slept through the whole thing)

but it's one night in hundreds. I would rather that than sirens, lawnmowers, lads in cars, etc

Op....yabu...youve not flounced. You get the aibu ops anymore!!!! Which wine is it?

Ah well if he's a knob just hope that the inevitable mower breakdown is a bad one that can't be fixed until Tuesday and it rains from then onwards

Is he still going with floodlights on or has he packed up for the night?

Scrowy your in my head again !! Dh is out for a rare night so I text to tell him what was happening followed by ' I hope he busts on a huge rock ' I'll get nothing but bad luck for ill will I know but I was in the middle of the rage !!!

It’s funny in mumsnet world though becauae a couple of weeks ago people were saying kids shouldnt be out in the garden before 10am so neighbours can sleep in 😂 I get the baby sleep rage too! Hope you’re feeling less stabby and the baby has a lovely long sleep

Honestly is nothing sacred on here any more? What the hell are you doing OP? This is AIBU. You should be drip feeding vile things about the guy, telling us we are all wrong, refusing to back down. Then after several pages go for the big flounce and demand MNHQ delete your thread because of possible RL info. You've upset the whole balance now

Enjoy your