Apologise as this might be long, and don't really know what I'm looking for but hoping someone could shed a bit of light as to what I could do moving forward.
Growing up I was very close to my GM, she was always kind and looked after me and my siblings a lot.
She is now in her late 70s and has become almost unbearable over the last year or so.
Up until about 6 weeks ago I was visiting her with my children about 4 times a week but have had to scale this down to 1 and she is so terrible to be around I can't bear it much longer.
She is disgustingly homophobic, to the point where I have had to leave as it is really distressing.
She is aggressive in the way she speaks and acts and also towards my children. For example, if my daughter isn't listening and is playing with her sibling etc she will grab her quite forcefully by the arm. I now can never leave them for as much as two minutes when we're at her home as she seems to do this when I'm in the kitchen etc and can then hear DD crying.
She lies and argues about EVERYTHING. Literally. You could say the sky is blue and she would argue that it is pink. You could say you stubbed your toe and she would say she's just got back from the doctors because she's broke hers.
She doesn't have a nice word to say about anyone. Her neighbours are talked horribly about, other family members, people who happened to be on the same bus as her, people in shops. It's really bad.
What would you do? Could she have something wrong with her? She is a complete hypochondriac and is at the doctors as least 6-8 times a month. They have had to tell her to stop coming over the same things but she just makes something else up, because as far as they're concerned, she is fine.
I really dread the day to come around that I have to go again but feel like I can't stop going as she has been so generous to me growing up. She is just turning into such a horrible woman. All of the family who visit regularly have noticed and just don't know what to do.