To mention it to the school...

[Butterflykissess]

I know fathers day is still a while away but I thought I would get opinions on this now so I can be prepared. DCs father is absent (his choice) last year for fathers day dc1 came out with a card for fathers day. it was very awkward but it hadnt really crossed my mind she would come out with one as school know I am a lone parent. dc2 didnt come out with any cards for mothers of fathers day last year but he was in reception so im guessing they start from year 1, as he made a mother's day card this year. wibu to ask that they dont make fathers day cards this year? i dont really want to draw attention to it or have them left out but equally he is not part of their lives so I would rather they didnt make cards for him. (dc1 has asd and has limited receptive communication so would have went along with it without saying anything.)

When I worked in a school we made a generic ‘happy Father’s Day card’, could be handed to anyone. Could you suggest doing something like this. I think schools should really be mindful of things like this, can be really upsetting for a small child.

I wish they wouldn’t.

School should be a safe place.

Teachers always offer alternatives. Usually there is the option to make one for Dad, Granddad or just to make a thank you card for someone in their family who cares for them.

I would prefer nothing with dad or father at all tbh.

Even if they offer an alternative it’s a reminder - here! You don’t have this!