To get irritated when somebody is always complaining of feeling unwell

[Lucky6266]

Person in question always either has joint pain, cold symptoms, headaches, dizziness.
Anybody else find it a bit draining or am I a unfeeling bitch.

I hear ya! Obviously if they have an actual illness that’s different, my DH has sore head, sore eye, sore joints, flu, cold, sore back, stubbed his toe and it’s falling off. At least 4 times a week he’s complaining about something.. always different. It’s taken me years to actually just nod and then block it out. I love him dearly but he is a winge

Wow if there was a good reason, diagnosis anything then I am not gonna hate anybody.

I’ve noticed it’s either a man with man flu or it usually attention seeking behaviour from someone who is lacking in confidence and self esteem. It becomes a crutch for conversation as it typically elicits a proper reaction from the other person, concentration on the topic and a two way discussion. Much easier than tumbleweed for shy or introverted people.

Yes pink maybe I'm taking him too seriously.
I try I really do I advise him on try this try that take a day of rest etc.

Yeah, Ehlers Danlos. Luckily mine isn’t too bad as long as I exercise regularly to keep my muscles strong, and keep my weight under control. I sleep a lot too.
I had a tough time a few years ago when an injury put me out of action and I gained a lot of weight.
I agree about self care. It’s really important.

You do know that when you have symptoms that could be many things, and especially a condition that can’t be tested for conclusively, diagnosis can take years?

I’m that person who’s always in pain, always exhausted, and while it may suck for you I guarantee it sucks more for them.

And no, fibro has nothing to do with hips. To get a fibro diagnosis you must have pain in at least three of the four quadrants of your body. It’s pain everywhere, basically.

it usually attention seeking behaviour from someone who is lacking in confidence and self esteem

And this is why people with chronic illness are treated like shit by society. FFS.

I’m guessing this person is your DP and he’s basically a bit of a whinged. Sounds like h works too hard and is always knackered but rather than ease up or simply say he’s knackered he has to give it some medical label.

Smile and nod. Providing endless meds and somon is feeding the cycle. How about working on a reverse psychology and praising his strength and fitness? He doesn’t sound as if he has one of the diagnoses offered here.

No I don't think he has a diagnosis but in general is run down and overworked.