to judge and never talk to his friend again?

[DrowningEveryDay]

He mentioned a website which I was not familiar with. He said basically people post pictures there of exes for revenge. I did not think about it that much until this morning, I remembered the conversation and I googled and found out that it's a very sick website where white supremacists, etc congregate.

I'm very turned off. And I feel so disgusted.

[BalloonSlayer]

Yeah, he just mentioned the website. He did not say he posts there.

You just mentioned it. You didn't say you post there.

I hereby JUDGE you and will never talk to you AGAIN!!!!

(not really )

[DrowningEveryDay]

I did not mention the specific website.

[DarklyDreamingDexter]

Seriously, judging people because they just know of a dodgy website? It's called general knowledge...bits of random info people pick up along the way.

Unless he's posting on it and approving of the stuff on it, your reaction is completely OTT. I know about loads of dodgy practices and websites and other things because I've read about them in the news or someone's mentioned it. Am I tarnished by the mere knowledge of them? Should people avoid me because of what I've read? Get a grip! I'd avoid you in RL if I knew you were so quick to judge.

[ImogenTubbs]

I know about lots of dodgy websites and dark net sites, because I read the tech press and mumsnet. I don't visit any of these sites, but I know about them. Seems a bit weird you would judge your friend for this unless you have other reasons to be concerned about their behaviour?

[DrowningEveryDay]

general knowledge...bits of random info people pick up along the way.

No. General knowledge is basic science, maths, politics, Mumsnet, Reddit, Twitter, Quora, maybe even 4chan. This is on a different level

unless you have other reasons to be concerned about their behaviour

You can say that.

[BlueJava]

OP, people can know about websites for all sorts of reasons - talk at work or the fact that they may be in IT security, or police investigations etc. I wouldn't judge because he knows about it. However, if he posts or said you should post... yeah that would be something that made me uncomfortable and I'd consider distancing myself.

[GalwayWayfarer]

Bit of a drip feed OP if you have other reasons to be concerned and this is just one of them.

Judging someone who happens to know about a dodgy website = naive, unfair, judgmental

Judging someone who you have a lot of reservations about for various reasons = totally different situation

[BuntyII]

Is Sluthate still a thing? Is it that? Oh I hope nobody reports me for having heard of it

[DrowningEveryDay]

No, I don't know what Sluthate is. It's not that.

Anyway, maybe you ladies are right.

Thanks!

[TheRoadLessRocky]

You haven't actually clarified the context. So you were talking about the dangers of the Internet but did he say it in a way that suggests he approves or disapproves of it?

General knowledge isn't just benign things. I know of a couple of quite sick websites, doesn't mean I like them or have even visited them. I just read aboyt them in the context of their negative impact. General knowledge consists of more than just the things you've heard of.

[Tawdrylocalbrouhaha]

I know (and have visited) a site dedicated to cats who look like Hitler.

Doesn't make me a Nazi.

[ReanimatedSGB]

FFS. People know of all sorts of unsavoury things - they read about them in the news, or someone else mentions them in conversation... or the person has been on the recieving end of unpleasantness from the site.
Do you spend a lot of time judging other people for spurious reasons? Do you think that wilful ignorance is a sign of moral superiority or something? ('Waa, waa, my mind is blank of everything because my thoughts are pure, how dare you mention anything distasteful in my special sensitive hearing...')

[pigmcpigface]

Jesus Christ.

As part of my work, I research the alt-right. I have a lot of knowledge of some very horrible websites, where awful people with terrible views hang out. Does that mean I agree with them? No, of course not.

I find it odd that people think that just because you know about something, you must be in some way affiliated with it. I've had this issue with very bright academics, too - many do not want to read things with which they don't agree. I find that odd. Reading is not indoctrination. If you are a decent person, who is capable of independent critical thought, you will not become a Nazi because you read Mein Kampf, or an alt-righter because you watch Jordan Peterson.

[mathanxiety]

For various reasons I am familiar with a post-your-own-gay-porn site, at least in its incarnation from about 14 years ago. I am not a gay man who spends time in sex dens in Thailand, and I never want to be either.

You are confusing general knowledge with trivia.

[DrowningEveryDay]

Ok, you're all right - thanks everyone!

[DianaPrincessOfThemyscira]

I know about lots of different websites that I don’t use, there’s a thread about one horrible one on the front page of Chat right now.

If you want to draw back then do, but I think this is an odd reason to want to.

[BitOutOfPractice]

I know about NetMums but I'm not a hon.

[BoobleMcB]

Well maybe you should enlighten us then OP. At least we can all judge each other for being aware if it then 😁

-surely I'm not the only one who wants to know what this place could possibly be-

[Racecardriver]

Maybe he knows about because one of his exs posted pictures of him on it. Judging is definitely premature but it does raise somr questions.

[LynetteScavo]

I posted on NetMums once. I can't remember my password, and felt dirty afterwards....actually You're fright to judge me and never to deal to me again.