Honestly confused and would love to hear other perspectives.
DP has a son(5) I have a son(5).
His treatment of the two kids is causing a lot of tensiom and trouble.
He has his son one week on and one off but treats him as though he is two years old. The result is so tangible that at 5 years old this child can rarely speak without whining and crying(for anything) can't brush his own teeth, can't dress himself or zip up a coat or even put on velcro shoes. Can't sleep alone, is sometimes fed like a baby.
Is picked up and held like a baby everytime he cries whether or not he's misbehaved.
I would say it honestly seems like obsession, the child cannot pass a day without being constantly photographed at every moment(eating, sleeping, on the toilet). When he-s asleep his father is then looking through all the photos of him constantly.
I realised suddenly at one point that I have seen him pass entire days interacting with him in no other way apart from saying 'awww little cutie pie' 'awew you' and tickling him. No exageration.
He said openly he can't be bothered to discipline him when he has him(so it's kind of like dealing with animal from the muppet babies).
He doesn't see any if this as wrong and I'm not even going into too much depth about it.
Is this normal for 5 years old or to have this intense of behaviour toward your child? My son is the same age and he can dress himself, eat, hold conversation etc.
I'm worried I'm just mean but it seems as though he's actually harming him somehow or harming his development the way he's treating him.
Any advice?