AIBU to not want a partner?

[Mashandbangers]

I’m not sure how to put this into words.
Was with my ex 8 years, divorced 2 years ago, no kids. At first I was anxious to get into another relationship, and quickly. A few OLD dates which nothing serious came of...
Realised today that I haven’t had sex dated since before Christmas, and haven’t missed it at all.
When I was married I was pretty bloody miserable. Didn’t have a ‘proper’ job due to husbands career. Almost by accident I’ve found myself in a very fulfilling career, which pays enough for me not to worry about money (I’m not rolling in it by any means, but I can cover the bills and have a few hundred quid a week left over). Also bought my own place, which is a shoebox flat but I’ve loved being able to decorate it exactly how I want with no compromise.
Reflecting now I think I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. And not in a manic way, but in a contented way...
But I’m late 30’s and can’t shake the expectation that I should have a partner, or at least be looking 😂 and a family. I’m the only single one in my friendship group.
Is it an odd thing to not want a partner? Am I going to be the cliche career girl who reaches retirement and finds themselves alone and lonely (I don’t feel lonely now).
Sorry for the rambling..

Nothing wrong with that at all. I am like that. And also even if you did want to date in your later years there will be men and women in the same boat due to similar circumstances or widowered etc. Dont live your life by what other people expect. You will never be happy then.

It seems that even the single people I know are trying their hardest not to be. And often assume I am too.
Starting to worry that something is wrong with me not wanting to be in a relationship!

Nothing wrong with you whatsoever. As a matter of fact, it sounds like you're doing quite a bit better than average. I say carry on, and very well done.

I've been single for over 4 years after splitting from DS's dad and still have no desire for a relationship. I'm one of those people that is more suited to single life. YANBU

Op honestly you sound fab. I am looking into sperm donation because i want kids but not a relationship. Its not abnormal :)

It is difficult sometimes for others to accept that you may be genuinely happy with your lot, when they perceive it to be lacking in one (or more) element which they consider essential for happiness. You could equally replace relationship with children, independent income, cat, bigger house etc

Equally, you shouldn't feel like you need to declare your position ...... Im single BUT I'm happily so, I'm single BUT I'd like a relationship. It's almost socially acceptable to expect someone single to add the BUT. Whereas all our married friends aren't expected to answer "I'm married BUT I'd rather not be" or "I'm married BUT I'd prefer to date just and have my own space". Because the BUT suggests a negative to the situation.

@drquin that’s a really good point. When I was married and to outsiders it looked like the perfect relationship, I didn’t spend my time going ‘I’m married BUT I think I made a huge mistake’.
I suppose when I was a kid I just assumed I’d now be married with children with no consideration as to if I wanted it, it was just what people did.
I’m getting a huge sense of fulfilment doing things on my own, which in turn has led to confidence, which has led to the contentment. I’ve even noticed I dress differently now getting a bit vain

@martha that’s fantastic! I’ve never felt a strong maternal urge, so never thought about the wanting a baby without the partner along with it!