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Life after Death

35 replies

Lilacwine1 · 23/05/2018 17:51

I was discussing with my son what happens when you die. He said it would be good, if there was an afterlife, as we would all be together again. AIBU to hope there is life after death, but in reality I think of all the complications of meeting loved ones. What if a loved one dies before you, and then doesn't like the older you when you meet. My baby daughter died, will I know her. What do MNs think? I apologise now if this has been discussed before.

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TSSDNCOP · 23/05/2018 20:16

I find it makes me happy to think that there is something else. A place without pain and suffering and sadness. Not that we are all walking about like on earth, just that there’s an existence of peace and contentment.

It makes my bad angel’s insistence that there’s just a big full stop a little easier to live with.

bumblenbean · 23/05/2018 20:19

annandale

I remember some of your posts about your husband. I hope you and your son are finding some peace. Mental illness is devastating in so many ways Flowers

MrsKOBrien · 23/05/2018 20:19

I don't believe at all. Dead means dead.

PatriciaBateman · 24/05/2018 00:30

I believe (sort of) that we are literally every person. In the 'afterlife' there is no time, and so you can reincarnate into your own child, or your parent, or someone who lived 1000 years ago.

And I believe that is exactly what we've done. One soul, reincarnating over and over again, into multiple different people (every single person in fact) over millenia.

We live every life and die every death, and so it is that what we do to others is quite literally what we do to ourselves.

I also believe we do have consciousness before we are born (obviously according to above belief), but that we so easily slip in and out of amnesia without questioning (ie. ridiculous dreams that we don't really question while experiencing it - ie. flying), and that incarnation in a body is like accessing the internet through a computer.

Using that analogy, from the internet's (world's) point of view - if your computer (brain) malfunctions or shuts down - you are sick/mentally ill/demented or dead, and so we say consciousness is in the brain. But in reality only your interface has stopped working. You (consciousness) are still intact and just need a new computer (body/incarnation).

I say these are sort of beliefs because I go back and forth. Part of me thinks there is nothing, and really welcomes that thought. Not sure if that is just depression talking though.

SusanneLinder · 24/05/2018 00:58

I would like to think so, but I really don't know. I think that sometimes as human beings we try to find logical answers for things that just might not be logical.

I have sat with dying members of my family, and every one has sighted a dead relative or their spouse. They, of course, could have been dreaming, or known their time has come and be thinking about "the other side".
I was a bit of a cynic ( my mum believed in it all), but the weirdest thing was when my oldest DD went to a spiritualist at her MIL's. She just went to make up numbers and was a non believer.The messages were all for me from my Dad ( she even had his unusual name) and stuff no one but me knew about, even DD didn't know.
I thought she had researched her/us, but DD turned up on the night so she wouldn't have time, is married, we don't share surnames and I don't use my real name on Social Media. Nor do I ever talk about my Dad ( we didn't have a good relationship). I didn't even come up on search engines till very recently.
I am still trying to find a logical reason.

73kittycat73 · 24/05/2018 02:28

I like to believe. I've read so many books on life after death for years.

I fear hell as well, after a long childhood [snip] going to church. Hell always described in immense detail, heaven hardly mentioned.

Snap!

WhoWants2Know · 24/05/2018 03:46

Patricia Bateman I really like your train of thought, and your description of the human body as a computer terminal used to access life.

I also think that time only exists on a physical plane, so potentially your own "soul" could be anywhere and everywhere when you die.

And if I think about the concept of multiple universes, and that every decision we make could create an alternate reality...

What if we come back as ourselves, and live out every possibility?

MakeItStopNeville · 24/05/2018 03:59

I kind of like the idea of reincarnation. I’ve had a couple of (minor) phobias since I was a tiny kid, for no reason whatsoever and it would be cool if it was from some residue from a past life. I try to keep an open mind to the whole thing as, the fact is, nobody knows.

BluebirdofFriendliness · 24/05/2018 04:06

I believe in anything that brings comfort and peace to those that are grieving

Vitalogy · 24/05/2018 06:04

I agree PatriciaBateman

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