Aibu to think this was overzealous?

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Okay so my sister has had quite a bad health scare today, went to the GP with problem 1 and a quick mention of problem 2 had the Gp very concerned. Sister was told to go to x hospital immediately.
This was at 1pm.
I'm not in work today so when she phoned me asking for me to go and pick up her son (aged 6)I agreed. She gave a quick phone call to Dn's school and I went up at 3:15 to go get him.
I showed them pictures on my phone containing myself and DN, told them they could call my sister and she would verify it but they claimed not to know anything about the earlier phone call.
After 20 mins (3;35, most kids gone home at this point) they manage to get hold of Dsis. Dsis confirms again what has happened and asks them to please let DN go with me.
After this phone call I'm allowed to see DN but not leave with him. Dn runs up to me exclaiming "Aunt peanut!" He clearly knows who I am. I ask if I can leave with him. They say they need to see photo ID "just in case" I've not brought any, at no point in the phone call my sister made(first or second) did they say I needed it and since I don't carry it generally it wasn't really a consideration. They said they may call in social services as he'd been abandoned. I said abandoned? I'm his auntie! His mum knows I'm here has confirmed who I am DN himself can identify me how can you say he has been abandoned I'm not jo blogs off the street for goodness sake!
At 4:05pm I'm finally allowed to take DN with me after much umming and ahhing... by which point I'm late to pick up my own children from childcare (was meant to be there for 4 o'clock, which I would've been if I'd left by 3:45pm at latest). I've just got home and I'm a bit miffed to say the least.
Aibu to think this was very overzealous? Or have there been huge changes in child protection/school pick up protocol that I'm unaware of??

Jobsworths

Why did you indulge their nonsense? You should have just taken his hand and left.

I'd expect a phone call from the child's parent telling me who was collecting them, then I'd ask the child if they recognised anyone outside. If they said yes, that's person who I've been told is picking them up then I'd let them go.

That school sounds ridiculous.

They may have phoned the police, at least that was my worry. my worry was if I'd just left with him (and I did consider it) I'd get stopped on the way to getting my own children which would've been a much bigger delay. I'm not a police officer mind, so I don't know how it works but this was my concern.

The police wouldn't give a shit.

The waiting until they had spoken to her and confirmed is fair enough. The not letting him out after he she had confirmed and he had too was madness!

Ds School has a password system which works well from what I can tell.

Ridiculous. This week I called my sons school 5min before kick out time and said ‘so sorry, forgot to call earlier, I’m xs Mum and he will be collected by y today as I can’t get there’. They said yup, no worries, we’ll go let class know and tell him too so he doesn’t worry, 20mins later ds was dropped home by friend.

The school was out of order to you and if I were the Mum of the kid I’d be kicking off

Never had that problem when I call up and let the school know in advance changes in the pick-ups. We also have a password so the person doing the pickup can confirm with that.

That's ridiculous and the mention of social services because he'd been abandoned!

Hope your sister is ok.

I got stuck on the motorway when a sub 1hr pop up one junction and back turned into a 5 hour round trip from hell. I rang a classmate's parent, then let the school know and all was well. I've had the DCs picked up by a pre-aranged person unknown to the school too. I just warned them the day before and made sure that the DCs knew.

Not letting them go when they clarified with DSis was over zealous. They do need her permission from a change of usual arangements because it is otherwise possible for a known person to take a child without the usual parent's permission and potentially cause problems.

Madness. Hope your sister’s OK OP.

Lord what a palaver! You wonder where common sense is in these situations.

Hope your DSis is OK

Ridiculous. Once they confirmed with your sister you should have told them to keep their noses out and took her home

Your poor Dsis. Not only was she sent to hospital she had all this to worry about.
I hope she complains big time. How dare they threaten abandonment when it had been confirmed twice!

Yanbu OP what a fuck about!

The police would have been pissed off to have their time wasted. It’s pretty obvious (given by your DN’s reaction if nothing else!) that you are his aunt, common sense should have prevailed.

At my DC’s school they have a list of people who can collect them so for future reference, find out if it’s the same at DN’s school and have your name put down.

Our local police would have had a field day. They don't have a great deal to do

I'd have been furious if I was your sister. She did everything she needed too, you did everything you needed too and the child identified you. But they wanted to call social services. If they had, and my child was taken away by a stranger who just happens to work for the council rather than being taken home by my family, is be furious.

She knows you and trusts you. She does not know the ransom from social services that school seem to have preferred. Id go through them for even considering sending my child home with a stranger instead of his aunt.

Whilst it was over the top it is different from a classmates mum who to be fair they would recognise so I can see it from that perspective - they did take it to an overzealous level though