To be scared to meet stepson?

[PriscillaSM]

Me and DP have been together for just over 6 months. I have no children and he has a DS aged 3. I've met him for 20 minutes briefly and his DS really liked me but I'm absolutely shitting myself for when I spend more time with him!

I really want him to like me as I know mine and DPs relationship won't continue if he does not like me but having no children of my own means I don't know how to act around young children?

Am I thinking too much into this?

I would advise you just be nice to him, smile a lot and be laid back. I find my children shy away from the people who are too loud and in their face (trying to be super fun). They tend to go to the ones who just sit back and wait for them to come over. Also maybe dont touch his daddy - my niece got very territorial after her parents split and jealous.

Yes you’re overthinking it. He’s 3, just take some haribo and tell him you like Spiderman and he’ll be your best buddy.
I say this as the mother of a 3yo boy

I first met my DSD when she was 3 and was so nervous! I agree with sockunicorn - let them come to you, don't try to force it and they'll soon be looking for you to join in. And build up physical contact with the dad slowly in front of them, we avoided any hand holding/kisses etc until she was much more comfortable with me.

And remember it's up to the dad to keep him entertained and happy, you are just there as an extra set of hands at first so don't put too much pressure on yourself. Being scared about meeting him just shows that you care which is a good thing!

Boys of that age are generally fairly easy to please - cars / wheels / dinosaurs / tractors etc
And don’t push it - be relaxed and sit back and don’t be too ‘keen’ - let him come to you to play.
My DB’s GF is the most disinterested person in children, she literally couldn’t give a shit, I have never met anyone less maternal. Guess who my DS gravitates towards, yep my DB’s GF! Wants to sit on her knee, wants her to play cars with him, wants a piggyback from her etc

Thank you all for your help
I’ll just try to ease myself in I think!

Just slow down and treat him like any other 3 year old. Kids can sense it and feel uncomfortable if you try too hard.

You've only been dating his dad for a matter of months. Remember, at this point he's your boyfriend's child, not your 'stepson'.

I'm sure you'll have lots of fun and that's bound to make him happy to be around you.

Don't worry, it's not as bad as meeting a pain in the ass mother in law!! Well, he might be a bit shy but I agree with the others, just relax as best you can and don't crowd him. Don't try and hug him just say hi, and wave and then be Smiley and chilled. Also talk to him like a normal human. (With less swears!) Kids really dig that... beat of luck!