For paying money to agree that I'm a dick

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So history goes STBexDH, completely absusive arseholes. Finally escaped him beginning of 2017 and he filed for divorce siting many made up reasons why I was such an awful wife.
Didn't dispute as I wanted the divorce, 6 months later I contact his solicitor and divorce hasn't proceeded as he didn't pay them.
So wibu to pay his solicitor to put a divorce petition in that states I'm fucking awful?!

Put in your own petition but it doesn't matter, it doesn't make a difference

Why don't you start your own petition.. List why he is unreasonable and divorce him. If you don't get into court etc it's not thousands.

It may not be £1000s but it will be far more than just paying for the already signed and sealed ready to post divorce. And money is extremely tight

Swallow your pride and do it. It isn't fair, but at least you'll get the result you want.

It's not like anyone important will see what he's said.

ExH and I went to see the same solicitor to arrange a divorce and the so,icitor said we had to have separate ones as one solicitor cannot act for both parties. I think that his solicitor will say the same thing, but it may be worth asking if you could just pay the bill rather than see representation

He is the client so he will have to give his instructions to his solicitors to issue the papers. If you give him the fees behind the scenes then that's up to you. My worry would be that he would go off the radar again mid way through the divorce and not apply for decree nisi or decree absolute. This would be even more a PITA, and much harder and more expensive for you to sort out.

If it was me, I'd issue and have control of the proceedings. Would be worth the money to get it done.

Make sure you get advice on the finances!

If money is tight, the cheapest way is just to file for divorce yourself, no lawyers. It's £550 total if you don't qualify for benefits. If you're not well off you may qualify for benefits to pay court fees (even if you're not on benefits normally). Then you're in control.

Do it, he won’t be expecting it and the last laugh will be on him. That’s assuming he can’t contest or withdraw he own application?

Doubt his solicitor's would let you pay for their client's petition when
you're the other party, op.

Agree with pp, go with the DIY option, it's pretty easy to do and
you just pay the standard court charges of £550. www.wikivorce.com
is really good for free legal help and there's a forum.

If it's possible to do (and I have no idea if it is) then I would do it like a shot.

If you have a copy of all his paperwork anyway you can copy and paste (or retype) onto the court stuff, changing from your unreasonableness to his, and then send it in yourself. Cheaper than a solicitor.....what's the worst he can do? Pay his solicitor to send his petition in as well? Either way you get your divorce...
I did my own. Saved myself a fortune!

The solicitors have agreed I can pay it but upon speaking to them today it could get very messy when having to apply for decree nisi etc.
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So did you put the reasons he gave as your own? For example if he said you don't clean the house did you put on your petition, I don't own the house, as your copying it? Crap example I know!