in getting upset at preschool today

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Just dropped ds2 at preschool - outside another parent asked me in front of all other parents " has ds got a problem?" I said no - he said your ds is hitting my dd . I told him that he needed to talk to the preschool about this as I could talk to ds about his behavior but not specific incidences that i had not seen - he went on and on and eventually i said it was not the forum to discuss this, I walked away and then my eyes started to water as I left preschool.

Did i say the right thing I am very sensitive re DS2 behavior

He is an unrealistic man if he thinks you can influence your preschooler's behavior while you are not there - be sad for his daughter, god knows what his expect6ations of her will be like.

how old is your ds?

Some people just don't know how to handle these things at all. And I don't mean you. DD has come home a few times and said X has hit her in pre-school. I would rather approach her keyworker than the parent, as neither of us were present when it happened- or even if, as DD is a bit over sensitive and sometimes thinks she's been hit if someone acccidently knocks her.

I work in a pre-school and if there was a problem they would speak to you. Have a quiet word with your son's keyworker about this parent and what he has said and see what she has to say.

I had this when we were new to the school thing. My immediate reaction was to repremand my dd and get her to apologise. I still regret telling her off. I wish I had gone to the teacher and asked if there was a problem between the two girls. In my case, it turned out that this particular parent was a serial complainer about her kids and I have lost count of the amount of parents that have had the same conversation with her. You did exactly the right thing by telling him that it was not the time or the place to discuss it. If there is a problem, then the school would contact you, but since they haven't, they clearly don't think so. Sorry for you & DS

thanks for your support man apologised said he did not handle it very well ! . I am still embarassed though re: my reaction. What i love about this site is the support you all give