To not want babysitter's boyfriend over in our absence.

[waddlemyway]

We have a babysitter booked for Friday night. She's the girl from three doors down and over the course of the past year has sat somewhere between 5-10 times.
She's just texted me to ask if he boyfriend can come over after she puts our DDs (1&3) to bed. My gut instinct says no but I can't put my finger on why. I guess older DD might hear his voice and/or be confused if she came down. DH isn't keen on having a stranger in our house in our absence but wants to sleep on it. It's not like we don't trust her, but it seems her two older sisters are quite goody two shoes and she's the one we spot smoking five steps around the corner from the house thinking her parents won't catch her.
WWYD? Is it unreasonable to say no? Do I need to tell her why?

I think 5 minutes peace without parental input on your nice comfy sofa is a great prospect for a teen couple. I remember being a teen well.
Say no,you don’t need a reason.
Great that she asked though.

Actually I am going against the grain. Our babysitters were lovely girls and we ways allowed their boyfriends to come too. In fact the boys used to love playing with them. We also had male babysitters.

They were nice lads and respectful to us and we always had a babysitter when needed because they could bring bf and watch xfactor or a movie.

I’d say no - he’s a stranger and she’s meant to be “working”
But in reality you know she will just have him over anyway (and likely has done in the past)
I’d find a new baby sitter.....

Bringing a boyfriend along when babysitting was pretty typical when I was young. It wasn't so much the opportunity for snoghing, more that sitting it someone elses house all night was bloody boring.

You can say no of course but you may then find her less bothered about sitting for you now or in the future.

I wouldn't have a problem with this. I used to take BFs babysitting 30+ years ago. It's quite boring being stuck alone in someone else's house.
And surely if she's old enough to babysit (hands on, putting a 1 YO to bed), she's old enough to smoke?
Anyway, just say no if you're not happy.

Ha, crosspost, Barbarian

I'd say " I'm really sorry but I won't have any strangers in the house while I'm not there and Would much rather you babysat alone. Do you still want the job?

I used to take boyfriend's all g when I was a teen babysitter - would just watch t.v/chat/snog 😁 it can be really boring babysitting and as long as she gets the kids organised and in bed first, it wouldn't bother me at all