Being accused of prostitution!!!

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I'm not even going to bother with name changing.

My good friend has just spilt up with her controlling partner and he has now started rumours that her and myself are prostitutes.

People actually believe him and I'm panicking it's going to get back to my kids or random weirdos will turn up at my door.

Do I call the police? Is it even a police matter?

Started rumours where? I think unless anything actually happens in regards to your safety then it won't be a police matter until then. Just keep a record of everything if anything happens.

He's telling anyone who will listen in my village.

I'm petrified it'll get back to my kids. I literally go to work and then come home.

I have no life away from work and my kids. I'm so upset

No one will believe it then surely?

Sounds awful though

Don't worry. It's the type of immature rumour a 12 year old might make up. The only people who are going to believe it are similarly immature idiots.

Any trouble go to the police.

That is harassment

Slander, surely. Can you get any legal advice if this continues?

How old are your children? Are they likely to understand the meaning of what's being said? If so then surely they also know that you go to work and you go home and are certainly not selling sex in the meantime. Do not worry about his silly little rumour getting to your children.

Anyone that believes him clearly doesn't know you therefore their opinion does not matter in the slightest. If they are naive enough to listen to playground gossip, let them.

My kids are ok teenagers. He has fin for this kind of behaviour, he does this sort of thing often but because he's such a nice guy to the neighbours people believe him.

He's not right at all, like he's sort of evil in a way. He's manipulative and one of the biggest liars I have ever come across

If he does it often, people will realise, even if they seem to get on with him to you.

Honestly, try not to worry.

Instead of "her and myself" you can just say "we"

It's defamation of character and in theory you can sue, but the issue of damage to reputation is hard to prove.

tell the kids that x is saying some really nasty things about you both because he is angry and that if they hear anything they should laugh but tell you so you know.
Then prepare standard responses if it is brought up...
What? And you actually believed him? Shakes head.
Did I squeeze in a quick client between arriving in from work and cooking tea? Perhaps if I am really quick i can fit another in between washing up and Emmerdale. I wonder if he will notice if I make the kids sandwich boxes up at the same time?
If only my social life was that wild...
Don't tell me, friends exp thinks he is back in the schoolyard. No I am not a prostitute. Any more questions?

In my opinion it’s the type of insult that trash men just throw out there like ‘slut’ etc to get a cheap shot/attempt to hurt you. I would hope that most people would realise this and pay him no mind

He’s petty and pathetic. You know the truth. If anyone dares to ask you, just tell them that he has begun spreading rumours about you both after the breakup. It shows that he’s probably talking out of his arse and being a bitter ex

Call Jeremy Kyle

If you’re genuinely concerned about your safety and think random people might come to your house, do contact the police. I’d hope that they would have a word

Also, if it becomes hot gossip, i would probably write a short social media post and expose him. Nothing detailed, just that it has come to your attention that x has been spreading lies about you after his breakup etc it’s not true, just the disgusting parting words of a bitter ex etc

if someone does say xyz told us you were a hooker, have some responses ready... such as "wow! really? god! i must be pretty crap i haven't had sex since march of 2017" or "Oh YES!!! you can see how i am just raking it in, dripping in money" " ohhhhhhhhhhhhh thats why your husband kept calling me up last week? tinkly laugh"

Seriously do not post on social media about this - your ex would love it.

Do you really think anyone will believe the rumours anyway?