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to spend £280 a week to feed a family of 5?

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TempleOfBlooms · 22/05/2018 18:51

I spend about £280 a week on food. This includes my work lunches which tend to be salads from places like Leon plus coffees etc. The rest is food eaten at home.

Breakfast for all five of us tends to be things like Bircher muesli or chia based stuff with fruits and nuts. Fresh juice too.

Lunches in summer are usually a selection of dips and cheese and meats and salads.

Dinner is usually fish or chicken with a selection of salads and grilled veg.

So fresh food but not caviar or ridiculous indulgences.

It seems like everyone else on here can feed a family of four on tiny amounts. How? We certainly could eat more cheaply but that would mean fewer veg, fewer fruits, less fish etc.

Is it really so unusual to spend so much on food? I never see anyone else admit to it.

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StayingAtTamaras · 22/05/2018 22:53

@AnxiousPeg Grin at knitting own lentils

StayingAtTamaras · 22/05/2018 22:53

@AnxiousPeg Grin at knitting own lentils

StayingAtTamaras · 22/05/2018 22:53

@AnxiousPeg Grin at knitting own lentils

DrowningEveryDay · 22/05/2018 22:53

Keeoe

Sorry, meant to say same, but without a daughter.

ILikeyourHairyHands · 22/05/2018 22:58

No, I see that Anxious, but I think most people weren't doing that.

ToothyMcPuthy · 22/05/2018 23:01

What’s the difference between Bircher muesli and any other muesli?

DrowningEveryDay · 22/05/2018 23:02

What’s the difference between Bircher muesli and any other muesli?

I think it's just muesli soaked in greek yogurt?

Smeaton · 22/05/2018 23:07

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chavtasticfirebanger · 22/05/2018 23:08

^^
Pmsl

ILikeyourHairyHands · 22/05/2018 23:09

I don't think there's anything intrinsically wrong with spending that much money.

People do have different spending levels.

Thewhale2903 · 22/05/2018 23:11

Smeaton
Grin just nearly wet myself!

ToothyMcPuthy · 22/05/2018 23:12

Thanks drowning

clumsyduck · 22/05/2018 23:23

Im so glad I'm not obsessed with food . I remain slim , healthy , Eat well enough and have plenty of spare cash for actual fun stuff instead of showboating over the price of my museli Grin

anon99827 · 22/05/2018 23:32

Not the same amount of people to feed. But me and my DH and a 4mo baby. Our weekly shop comes to approx £60 including toiletries, cleaning stuff, nappies and wipes. (Not formula) AND we have a bottle of cheap wine with it too. We shop at Aldi and eat plenty of salad and fresh fruit. Always have fresh meat with every meal every day of the week except Sunday. I meal plan and don't buy ANYTHING we don't need. I'm on maternity so have lunch at home. But we buy enough food shopping to over cook meals each night so my Dh can have left overs for lunch the next day

LighthouseSouth · 22/05/2018 23:35

Just looked up Bircher muesli

I hate the way food is made so faddy. I've probably made that 100 times and just called it breakfast.

passmetheloppers · 22/05/2018 23:55

Who buys 6 salmon fillets for 5 people? Got your quantities a bit wrong there OP. No wonder your food bill is so high.

ItchyBites · 22/05/2018 23:57

We moved back from Australia a few months ago, so I am quite keen on checking out prices for food and things, in comparison to what we used to pay in Aus. Where we live (rural Scotland) I have the option of Sainsbury's (7 minute drive) or Tesco/Asda (40 minute drive), so I choose Sainsbury's out of convenience. It costs more in Sainsbury's, but I save myself a massive chunk of time per week, considering I tend to shop twice per week for fresh meat, fish, fruit and veg.

Since we have been here I have also shopped in Sainsbury's in both Yorkshire and Birmingham, whilst on holiday visiting family. On both occasions, my shopping cost less than it would have done at our local supermarket in Scotland. We have one local supermarket and it can charge more because there is nowhere else to go, whereas if we were in a bigger city and had several supermarkets, there would be more competition and consequently lower prices.

The OP's £280 shopping a week may well cost less in other parts of the country. However, in areas where there is no choice, that may well be the cost of a healthy diet.

blacksax · 23/05/2018 00:06

Beans on toast for you tomorrow OP.

Graphista · 23/05/2018 01:04

That's more than double what I spend pp and I shop online with sainsburys and my shop inc cleaning products, toiletries Sanpro etc was 70 this week but that's only once a month I stock up on certain items.

It's also more than my whole income per week!

We have:

Cereal, yogurt or toast & fresh juice for breakfast. Perhaps a fry up or Chucky eggs at weekends.

Lunch -

dd has a packed lunch, sandwich, carrot or celery sticks, yogurt, piece of cheese, piece of fruit, fun size cake bar as a wee treat. Her workplace provide tea, coffee, water and squash free.

Me - sandwich, carrot/celery/sliced pepper, yogurt, squash to drink.

Dinner - varies of course

Pasta, chilli, casseroles/stews, omelette/frittata, stir fry, salad (now it's warmer), 'meat n 2 veg' style meal (but I'll have a veggie sub eg quorn fillet or nut cutlet), hearty soups (in winter), ratatouille, baked potatoes...

Snacks - there are crisps, choc, biscuits in but I only need to buy them every approx 3 weeks, fruit, crackers (on which we have cheese, pate/spreads, sandwich meat (dd), butter n marmite), veg sticks, toast, yogurts.

Our fruit/veg is basic/boring -

Fresh-

Peppers, mushrooms, tomatoes, carrots
In summer - rocket (don't like lettuce), cucumber, celery, cherry toms

Apples, oranges, grapes, occasionally berries (in season or on offer)

Frozen - broccoli, spinach (great for smoothies and sneaking greens into dd ), berry pack (great for smoothies and crumbles), peas (admittedly more of first aid item), sweetcorn, onion (the teary eye thing affects me VERY badly), green beans (dd doesn't like), roast parsnips in winter.

Tins - tomatoes, baked beans, butter beans.

Tbh though we rarely snack as dd finishes work late so dinner is late. I'll have a snack late afternoon to get me through till dd gets in when she's on lates (my meds bugger my blood sugar). But dd really only snacks at weekends.

I rarely get dips prefer to make my own with plain yogurt, cream cheese or tinned tomatoes as base. That way can make to our own taste (we love garlic not so keen on hot spices).

Your family is a prime candidate for Eat Well For Less. Do you realise that's £15k a year??? That's a bloody house deposit!! You could probably stand to watch a few episodes! As a pp says they start off insisting X y z product they couldn't possibly tolerate a non branded or cheaper version - turns out they can't even tell the difference even sometimes being certain it's their usual favourite they're eating/drinking.

Op re salads
1 it takes 5 mins
2 organisation is part of life surely you're organised in other areas
3 I beg to differ if you're making you're own it always has the parts you like in and how much (and you can leave out the stuff you don't)
4 you can still go for a walk at lunchtime you don't need an excuse

How much is this Leon place (couldn't find out myself cos their site is shite!) double m&s? Bloody hell!! Pretty sure they get their fresh ingredients from the same place as any other salad provider AND as its salad you're not exactly paying for chef skills!

Even IF you still wanted to buy a salad I'm sure there's a supermarket either near home or work you could get from. Most do a decent range now.

Are you buying the Bircher muesli ready made? Is everything branded? (Total waste of money).

As a veggie I of course agree meat every day not necessary. Dd not a veggie and doesn't eat meat every day, even my mum doesn't! And she eats a fairly traditional British diet.

"six salmon fillets. Two packs of mixed lettuce, some nice tomatoes, cucumber, goats cheese, artichoke hearts, olives, bread and walnuts" now I DO think you're pulling our legs NOBODY eats like that daily! I've a few friends that are EXTREMELY wealthy (I'm taking multi million pound mansions, holiday homes and several luxury cars - one even has his own helicopter!) and even they would recognise that as unusual all in one meal (some of it I'm not sure even goes together).

It is possible it was over £30 as
Most expensive sainsbury prices
Salmon fillet £5.50 X 6 = £33!!
Salad leaves £2
Tomatoes £1.40
Cucumber £1.10
Goats cheese £3.40
Artichoke hearts £1.75
Olives £3.65 if 2 of those as quite small £7.30
Bread fresh £1.75
Walnuts £6

For a total of
£57.70 😱😱😱

"Since when does eating cheaply equate to eating processed, low quality food?

Exactly! I'm having a salad tonight as shopping has just been delivered

Rocket £1.50
Half cucumber 0.35
Cherry toms 0.75
Mixed peppers 1.00
Mushrooms 0.90
Mayo 0.80
Smoked cheese 1.00

But prob only used 1/4 of all that so £1.58 plus

An oh look... Not a carb in sight! (Not deliberate it's hot here and that's what I fancied tonight)

"Your stealth boast is showing OP" yea nothing stealthy about it!

"Expensive packets but still packets." Exactly - which means you've likely lost a good deal of the nutrition too. So if you're not paying for nutrition, and its less fresh so probably doesn't taste as nice...what are you paying for?

To the pp who only eats chicken - like veggies you need to be aware you're not getting iron and certain vitamins from the usual sources (red meat and fish) hopefully I'm preaching to the choir but I hope you're counteracting that by eating other items rich in these and/or taking supplements. Just this is becoming a common cause of anaemia/vitamin deficiency according to a friend of mine (dietician).

Free range and organic is an ethical choice, doesn't affect the taste or nutrition (been shown in numerous studies). If choosing as an ethical choice (and I choose free range eggs) fine, but be under no illusions re taste/quality.

"I simply don't understand how people feed families for less than that" because they have to - bet I could save you a good bit!

"Fresh juice isn't all that good for you every day. Ton of sugar" a small glass = 1 of your 5 a day and the sugar comes with a lot of vitamins. I find for breakfast the (unrefined) sugar kick gets me going.

Eating seasonally is not only cheaper but means you're usually getting the right nutrients for the time of year.

"There is a middle ground." Exactly it's not either gruel or caviar!

I can understand paying more for unusual items, but I think paying more than necessary on basics is a waste.

"takeaways or lunches they buy or Sunday lunch for like 4 extra people." Not all of us get regular takeaways, buy lunch out or have 4 extra for Sunday lunch. I'm on a tight budget couldn't afford that. I also don't drink (meds). Dd is still too young, and next year when she's 18 she can buy her own!!

I get basic cleaning materials. We don't make a lot of mess.

I don't always cook from scratch (eg the only bloody potato dd will eat is instant mash) if I'm making something that can be chilled/frozen (eg casserole, chilli) I'll double up and store half creating sort of home made ready meals (and like the dips, they're then to our taste).

Get a (cheap) takeaway occasionally or have a snacky tea of crackers, cheese, 'crudités', dip, olives, with a piece of cake (homemade usually, but sometimes shop bought).

So I'm no martyr!

Not sure op is necessarily making the Bircher muesli given a salad is too taxing.

Would just like to say I'm mid 40's, most of my friends my age can and do cook, a fair few bake too (3 have home based celebration cake businesses, one of these recently won a local award which came with a cash prize and she's planning to go 'official' and get a shop up and running). My younger friends really haven't been taught to cook either at home (mum's working full time) or at school (cookery classes crap or dropped altogether).

"Cooking isn’t hard." I agree but it's a confidence issue I think. I literally know people I wouldn't trust to boil pasta! The thought of cooking makes them flap so much.

When I went uni 2nd time I found (sadly) there were a few students missing meals because they didn't know how to budget either. I jotted down some VERY simple...I won't say recipes...instructions for easy but cheap filling meals and rather than singling out the students I knew were struggling stuck them on a handout and gave them round at a meeting about general student issues. (I was a rep). Those that didn't need them free to bin, but I was happy it helped some - it also lead to a little discussion that meant that students more confident with cooking were helping guide the less confident. (Though honestly I was wondering wtf are their parents playing at not making sure they could cope before sending them off to live alone!)

"it’s just a basic process of following recipes." It depends on the recipes, and the ingredients, most will know what boil means but a good few don't know what simmer, sauté or blanche mean. Many are wary of lentils, beans pulses even aubergine because of all the 'do you soak it' 'do you have to salt it' type stuff.

There is KNOWLEDGE and skill (how to prep certain veg, meat, fish, how to make sauces, don't tell me egg based sauces don't require skill to avoid scrambling etc).

Even some supposedly 'basic' or 'student' cookbooks contain daft ingredients or instructions the average student won't use/understand. Also most recipes give the idea all ingredients are essential where any experienced cook knows of possible subs or what can be left out without making much difference.

"Health wise they’re exactly the same as fruit and veg that isn’t pre prepared. What do you think they do to them to make them less healthy?" Just cutting some fruit and veg immediately reduces levels of certain nutrients. It also means they take longer to reach the customer.

"I had people ask me what mutton is
Black people eat this a lot I am black before anyone has kittens" still eaten in Scotland too, my parents like it. As did my grandparents. I wonder about Welsh? As like Scotland lots of sheep farming. I too watch Eat Well For Less with 😱 at beginning then much 🙄 as the rest unfolds... Can't find a smug emoji for end of programme 😂😂

If I weren't agoraphobic I think a great business idea would be cheap cooking lessons showing how to cook cheap, basic dishes/ingredients.

Chavtastic as per pp - also happy to help if you want to pm. Although I'm veggie and have been all my adult life so no expert on meat (but I could always ask my mum 😉)

Wyatt, I'm not working now, due to ill health. But I'm a Lp to one and when I was working full time I did still cook from scratch the less time consuming dishes, plus used slow cooker for eg chilli.

"This is where I think cooking is a skill. The knowledge to be able to do that is invaluable." Definitely agree - also at end of week, stocks running low and knowing what to make out of what's left in the fridge...

Stillwishihadabs I'd love the corn chowder recipe if poss?

I love talking food/cooking

busybarbara · 23/05/2018 01:14

Do you realise that's £15k a year??? That's a bloody house deposit!!

Come come, maybe something pokey up north or somewhere.. Confused

Graphista · 23/05/2018 01:48

Still counts - still a hell of a lot of money

bananafish81 · 23/05/2018 01:49

I agree with Sprinklesinmyelbow on cooking. I am sceptical of anyone who says they ‘can’t cook’. If they can follow basic instructions, they can cook. I dislike cooking but I can cook.

Well I can follow basic instructions so technically can cook, but my food usually comes out completely inedible so it would personally depend on your definition of 'can cook''

I could learn to cook if I really wanted to, and had the patience to keep fucking up meal after meal after meal to learn through experience.

I'm just not interested enough in food to give a shit! I'd rather buy overpriced pre prepared foods (eat my main meal at lunch with a hot meal from Leon very often!) to get some nutritional fuel into me. If we had been able to have DC,then of course I would make myself practice and learn to cook, although I suspect even if I did, I don't think I'd be very accomplished!

Monty27 · 23/05/2018 02:08

Good for you OP.
And your point is?
You crack on with what you're doing you seem well sated
Confused Hmm

ILikeyourHairyHands · 23/05/2018 02:10

Oi, I live oop North.

We're not all on a basic income.

Bloodybridget · 23/05/2018 02:31

Honestly, I don't know how some posters here can feed four, five, six people for a week on £60. Our household is just two adults, we usually have lunch at home and shop at Morrison's or Lidl, but we probably average £80 a week.

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