Grandparents who treat Grandkids as if they are the parents of them.

[Wellsy31]

Hello , i'm new here, it's so nice to find a site where i can talk about my Mother in law. My MIL, She came to pick up my 3 year old daughter as planned to spend a day with her at the her House house, but she text me just before leaving saying, "right, pack this, pack that, i'm taking her to my brothers house" my Daughter was very tired that day so i didn't really want her going on a long car journey and end up falling asleep.
I said no, sorry i would rather you take her back to your house as planned.
She got annoyed and said, "well i have already arranged it !!! Am i in the wrong for getting annoyed that she arranged it behind my back ? Does she seem a bit bossy or am i over reacting ? She never really asks permission for anything.

No, I wouldn't be happy with that for a tired 3 year old. Good that you had the backbone to say no at least.

I would prefer to be asked rather than told.

Just to warn you that you are about to get a million vipers having a go at you for accepting free childcare and not being unconditionally grateful.

However, I think if you know the plan was going to be too much for her and make her miserable it wasn't unreasonable to say so.

YABU, it’s one day and she’s going to see a relative.

I thought from the thread title she was going to be giving her full fat coke and Turkey twizzlers and staying up all night, not just visiting her Uncle!

Does she run every detail of your child's day past you to make sure it's ok?
Your MIL is allowed to make plans for the day. If you don't want her to then don't send her to your MIL