NC as outing to anyone who knows me IRL. Also, not really an AIBU but posting for traffic, so apologies for that.
I recently returned to work on a PT basis as my DCs are now entitled to childcare hours etc.
I only work 9.30-2 three days a week, which is fantastic. But the office is over an hour away which means it isn't actually working very well (always knew that was a possibility of course). DH works away and is not home in the week to help on a day-to-day basis.
In the last three months I have had to either WFH, or take leave, or abandon the office entirely etc due to (the very usual) reasons such as:
- Preschool asked me to collect one of my children due to being a bit poorly/having a fall etc.
- Kids (or me) need to see a doctor and only available appointment is middle of the day or not around preschool hours
- Hospital appointments
- Kids being poorly and can't go in (preschool bugs just don't seem to ever end???)
I have also been late on several occasions as Preschool has needed me to complete forms/talk to me on site when dropping off, and then hit traffic on the way to work etc. which I appreciate is pretty bad.
I continually apologise profusely as I understand how frustrating this must be from an employer PoV. Employer continually stresses none of the above is an issue as they understand 'what it's like having young kids and being home on your own in the week.' We also discussed it very openly in the interview (I detailed my childcare hours, the fact we have NO family within a three-hour drive to help out, and DH is away, so I am the primary parent Mon-Friday and they were very comfortable with this)
My role is one which can easily be contracted in on a self-employed basis as it's a consultative-type of position. I really like the company, and the job, and want to do well there. But I can't help but feel everyone would get better value for their money/satisfaction if I could freelance/work as a contractor for the same number of hours each week (and the same pay, I wouldn't go up to contractor rates) but so I could WFH on flexible hours, and then be nearer the kids if needed. I could be on-site by appointment etc... I am the only PT employee aside from one other who works one morning a week in a similar post but in a different department. I suspect (for various reasons) however they are a contractor (don't know them well enough to ask!).
I haven't thought it all through and am still new, and finding my feet, but I can't keep letting everyone down all the time so I just wondered if anyone has approached their employer about switching from an employee status to a contractor role, and how they went about it?
Fundamentally, the job has to work for both them and me, and I can't help but think soon this current pattern will become an issue for them, but I am also clear that my priority is of course my kids - We are really lucky in that going back to work was a choice for me - so I could have a bit of 'grown up' time etc.... plus something to focus on in the week as it can be really lonely sometimes. DH would probably prefer me not to do it TBH because of the reasons above and would rather I found a job nearer home, but for these kind of hours, that's like gold dust so I don't want to let the chance go, but I feel I need to find a better way of making it work for everyone. Like anyone does, I deserve to be happy in a job and my employer deserves 100% from me. But at the moment I feel like I'm letting everyone down, because most of all, I'm finding it really hard knowing I'm so far away from my kids - this has been exacerbated by an incident recently that saw one of my children in a&e needing stitches and when I got the phone call I was suddenly overcome with guilt that I was over 75 minutes away from the hospital they were taken to.
I'm rambling. Sorry, I just wondered if anyone had done similar and if it had been beneficial for them, and also, how they approached their employer about it?
Any thoughts or advice greatly appreciated.