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What to do - job!!

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gruffaloschild1 · 21/05/2018 08:19

Hi all...

I posted a thread a few days back about a potential new job.

I'm really confused and unsure what to do 😩. Circumstances at my current job have changed and I've been offered slightly more money to stay (part time).

The new job (full time) would now only see us about 200 a month better off, but that takes me away from my one year old full time which I hate the thought of.

However, the potential new job probably offers far better career prospects, much better job security and is probably a better long term choice. The current position is probably only definitely secure for another year or so and doesn't really have any other progression for me, I've gone as far as I can.

I really need some advice!

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BodgingThisMumThing · 21/05/2018 08:28

New job!

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gruffaloschild1 · 21/05/2018 08:30

The only thing stopping me is that I don't want to be away from baby full time 😩

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DontDrinkDontSmoke · 21/05/2018 08:32

Take the job.

pacempercutiens · 21/05/2018 08:33

Personally, I would spend the time with my baby - they're only going to be young and cute (and willing to spend this much time with you) once.

Melliegrantfirstlady · 21/05/2018 08:34

New job. You need to think long term.

bazingabazinga · 21/05/2018 08:35

I posted on your previous thread

I would take the job. I work FT and it’s fine. I make the most of weekends and days off etc. If there are prospects for promotion etc then that £200 could end up being much more.

Els1e · 21/05/2018 08:36

Personally I would spend time with my child and stick with the part time role. There will be other opportunities for better job / progression when the time is right for you and your family.

SilverHairedCat · 21/05/2018 08:41

Job security.

Where would you be in a year if the part time job ended and you were out of work altogether?

GreyCloudsToday · 21/05/2018 08:43

I'd take the new job

speakout · 21/05/2018 08:45

I'd stick with baby.

If finances permit I wouldn't work full time with young children.

Snowysky20009 · 21/05/2018 08:47

Take the job!

MaverickSnoopy · 21/05/2018 09:21

As someone who has taken a job with good prospects (but not in the area I want to be in) but which is part time and offers a high degree of flexibility so that I can stay at home more with 22mo, I was going to say stay in your job. But. Then you said that the job isn't as secure. I can't help but think that if you take the FT job you are building in some stability. Plus if you really don't like it you can leave and with extra experience.

Gazelda · 21/05/2018 13:35

New job with better security. Could you try negotiating condensed hours?

yoyo1234 · 21/05/2018 14:25

A job with greater promotion opportunities may long term lead to more hours with your child ( you may be able to go part time for the same money).

Love51 · 21/05/2018 14:31

What does dad do? Could he drop a day so your child still has a parent at home more?

Catinthecorner · 21/05/2018 15:13

New job. You shouldnt accept a counter offer, they rarely work out.

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gruffaloschild1 · 21/05/2018 19:15

It's so tough. One minute I'm sure of my decision and the next I've gone completely the other way

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gruffaloschild1 · 23/05/2018 07:24

Job interview day 🙈🙈🙈🙈

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ConciseandNice · 23/05/2018 07:35

Good luck!!!

For what it’s worth, I took a new job that was only that much difference, with exactly the same child situation. 1 year Iater i was promoted and my salary was 10x my previous one!!

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gruffaloschild1 · 23/05/2018 07:42

Thank you.

I'm hoping when I get there I'll get a strong sense of "I'll love this" or "I'll hate this"... that will really help me!

Congrats on your job and promotions! 😀

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jetsetter87 · 23/05/2018 07:47

Hi op good luck for today

I wanted to say that I took a new job when did was 10mo and went from 3 days to 5 upping my childcare costs considerably and so I was only earning £200 more than I did previously

But it's worked out fine we have a solid routine and my career is doing really well- my manager is very supportive and I've managed to negotiate leaving early on a Tuesday to spend more time with dd

However this links to another thread- my company are very good with flexibility and do not expect anyone to stay beyond their shift/hours so I don't feel any guilt walking out the door at 5 and I work my backside off while I'm there to avoid work from home!!

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gruffaloschild1 · 23/05/2018 08:15

Thank you. I think deep down I know in the long run I'm doing better by my son by taking the more secure job, it's just taking that step.

I don't even know I'll be offered anything yet!!

I'll report back once it's over and let you know how it's gone.

Thanks again x

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boomboom12 · 23/05/2018 08:20

Take the job with prospects if possible.

melclaire1111 · 23/05/2018 08:37

I was in this position when I went back to work after maternity.

I took the full time job.

I don't regret it. I hate being away from DC all day but the new job has allowed us to move to a much better house in a nicer area, we get more holiday here so I get more days off and generally we are better off.

After 6 months I mentioned in passing to my manager I was struggling a bit, mainly keeping on top of housework as all my spare time is spent with dc, and she suggested working at home one day a week to help, and also I do slightly longer days so I can finish early one day a week to pick DC up.

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gruffaloschild1 · 23/05/2018 17:19

Today went really, really well!

I'm not sure of the outcome though as he said their only reservation is that I'm "over qualified" and are worried I will bore and leave..

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