Or being a grumpybagface regarding neighbour's music?

[GrumpyBagFace]

Neighbour is a lone parent with a 15 year old son. She gets home from work about 8pm and from 6-8 every evening her son plays loud repetitive house music. I've talked to her casually about it (she's very nice) and have been round when it's been particularly loud but it's EVERY evening. Neighbour has been staying at her boyfriend's Saturday nights so the shitting music has become a Sunday morning regular too!

He's not playing it late into the evening but it's during the toddlers' bedtimes. It doesn't often disturb them if I'm honest, I just find it incredibly irritating.

I feel like I'm being unreasonable because he's 15 and playing music which isn't having an impact but I also find it so bloody annoying, I don't want to listen to shit music every evening.

YANBU. I’d find it really annoying.

For fucksake!!! Fucking fucking music!!!

Had a word with the mother and it got a bit more reasonable.

Half term this week and he's been blasting out fucking music all morning.

I've been round twice to ask him to turn it down. He won't answer the door, just peeps out from his bedroom curtains.

I'm back at work tomorrow and have a load of jobs to do around the house otherwise I'd take the toddlers out for the day.

How loud are we talking OP? Window rattling or just underlying sounds of tinny bass?

Somewhere between.

The plaster isn't fallen off my ceiling but it's loud! I can hear it over the sound of the washing machine in the kitchen that is on the other side of the house.

Well, you've got 2 choices - put up with it, or deal with it.

Dealing with it for me would mean a last talk with the mother and say you're really getting quite fed up and need him to stop with the music.

If that doesn't work you'll have to get in touch with the council.

i'd have killed him by now

just peeps out from his bedroom curtains.

I'd be shouting at him from the street. Probably swearing. Possibly threatening him. But then i turn into a banshee when it comes to stuff like this. So i'm not actually recommending this ...

I thought the previous talk with his mother solved it. I'll definitely be curtain twitching tonight waiting for her to get home.

He's doing it when she's out though!

I did catch his beady little eye and told him to turn it down but he just disappeared/hid.

Their other neighbour came home for lunch while I was banging on the door and said "noisy bugger, isn't he" but his house isn't joined on.

You need to make sure she knows he's doing it when she's out. See what happens from today when she's spoken to him later.

After today she can't say you didn't give her a chance.

I've never been through initiating an official noise complaint with the council, but it's worth noting that their other neighbor has clocked he's a ''noisy bugger'' too.

OP, you need to tell her that he's doing it when she is out & knows he's doing something wrong as he hides when you go round. That last bit is important for her to know.

I'm afraid I would also give her the impression the council were the next stop, if it were me. If she's reasonable, which you say she is, it may bring home your seriousness (it might also make her dig her heels in on his behalf, so weigh your options).

YANBU, the fact you have toddlers is irrelevant it's bloody irritating to have to listen to someone else's loud music every bloody evening. If he's home alone and wants loud music he should use headphones there's no need to disturb the neighbours on a regular basis.

He must be the only teen I know who hasn't permanently got headphone on

Can you record it on your phone so she can hear how loud it is? He's probably telling her its much quieter than it is.