To think that if everyone thought about the consequences of their actions a bit more, the world would be a better place

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Just pondering really because there's always loads of threads about how people are annoyed because of the actions of others.

Wouldn't it be nice if people thought about their actions first.

Whether that be

• parking in a considerate way
• not taking more than you give
• not being a noisy neighbour
• not breaking plans
• not arranging parties / hen dos / weddings which massively inconvieince people and cost a fortune

Whatever else.

It seems to me it's not difficult to work out what has the potential to piss others off so why don't more people do it?

You're right of course but some people are self centered and really don't give a shit how they impact on other people unfortunately as long as they are ok.
As my mum used to say 'i'm alright jack syndrome'

Sadly that's probably true Minion Path of least resistance and sod the rest.

Well, it would be hard to disagree with your logic: it's a question of doing to others as you would have them do to you, so if you want to observe that rule, you need to think about the effect of your action on others.

The deeper question is: how do we make people be nicer in the ways you suggest?

No idea dad!

Personally, I know of only one miracle worker who can actually change people for the better, and he was the source of the "do to others" that I quoted.

Problem is that what annoys one person may not annoy another.

Parking considerately for person A may cause inconvenience and annoyance to person B.

Children irritate the living shit out of me, should everyone keep their offspring outside my 10 mile exclusion zone (actually, yes, that would be great)?

Iyswim.

I don't really get your parking example milk, you either park considerately to all or you don't?

I read today about someone who parks in a lane because it's easier for him but makes it hard for others to get out.

I think it boils down to people prioritising their own convenience way above that of others.

YANBU-could you pass on the message to my MIL for me? Ta

I think you find that’s actually the case a lot of the time. But what would be the point of writing on a public forum about how great everything is? On this one, you’d get slaughtered for being smug and rubbing it in someone’s face, because that person has had a shite day/week/year/life.

I think I'd prefer people to be nice to each other than for people to provide fodder for public forums petulant 😂

Parking example is simple.

If you park in spaces 1, 2 or 3 it makes things difficult for A. But if you park in 4, 5 or 6 (which would make things easier for A) it makes things difficult for B. So where do you park? 6 blocks away?

That depends on who has the right to park in any of those spaces milk

If it's a free for all then anything goes but if you are supposed to park in 1, 2 or 3 but chose to park in 4, 5 or 6 then you're being inconsiderate.

It's a free for all, but it would be inconsiderate to park in 1, 2 or 3 for A, and inconsiderate to park in 4, 5 or 6 for B.

Obviously if all spaces are empty it's easy, but if only spaces 1 & 6 are free - where do you park?

I have to giggle about milks posts as she's clearly a parking offender! 😂

It's really very simple, don't park somewhere you are going to piss others off without reason.

If it's just first come first served then that's fine but if your parking takes someone else's space, blocks someone in, makes it difficult for others, then it's inconsiderate.

I don't drive! But I'm looking at the 6 spaces for the 8 houses () wondering who should be inconvenienced the most. (Currently spaces 3, 4 and 5 are empty.)

It's really very simple, don't park somewhere you are going to piss others off without reason.

It the "without reason" that's the problem. Everyone who pisses someone off thinks they have a perfectly good reason for doing it, and no-one will ever agree on what is or isn't a good reason.

If you buy / rent a house where 8 houses share 6 parking spaces you are asking for trouble.

The first 6 people have every right to park and the last 2 or more have to suck it up.

'Without reason' means you have a right to do whatever it is, doesn't include 'making my life easier at the expense of others'

It would be a much nicer place if everyone considered other people. Unfortunately there do seem to be a lot of selfish twats about. I really don't understand how people are comfortable being like that.