To enjoy spending a lot of time on my own?

[Frosty66612]

No DC. I absolutely love getting peace to do my own thing as often as possible. Reading a book in the garden for most of the day, going to watch a film at the cinema by myself, going for a walk and listening to a podcast etc. I told my sister this and she looked at me like I was mad and said surely I must get very bored and lonely.
I honestly don’t though and I relish the time to myself. I’m not a complete hermit though and do spend time with my OH (we don’t currently live together) and i’ll See a friend and family member once a wee too. I wouldn’t say I’m shy but I’d describe myself as a confident introvert.
I’ve got a work party next fri night and I’m secretly dreading having to be so sociable for it.

Another sociable introvert here! I crave time alone and have come to realise it’s actually a neccissity for my wellbeing. Hard for DH to understand as he loves being around others.

I’ve just resigned from a PT job because the energy needed to give to others is too much, then I go home to my small DCs and feel on the edge!!

Hoping I can get one day a week to myself and find something to tide me over cash wise for another two days. Even pottering and doing washing without being interrupted feels luxurious

Love it! It’s been the hardest thing for me about family life, although I’m clawing back that alone-time now the D.C. are older.

I used to holiday alone, go for dinner or to the cinema alone and wile away whole weekends reading, pottering, sleeping. Lovely!

As long as a have a fix of seeing friends a few times a month, I’m very happy to spend the rest of the time on my own. I love being with other people, but too much of it and I start to dislike them all 😂.

I like spending time on my own, but I also really enjoy good company too. It's all about balance I think. Too much of either and I get quite stressed out.

Totally with you Frosty! Isn't it great you enjoy your own company. I have dcs and a chatty dh, but dog walking is my peace! I holidayed alone before I had a family and I love a long train ride alone. I'd hate to be reliant on company all the time.

I'm a social introvert - I love meeting up with close friends from time to time but I need to plan it well in advance. If someone shows up without warning I have to fight the urge to slam the door in their face!

Alone time is where I'm perfectly happy - there's no shame in that

I love being on my own. Like PP, loss of time to myself has been the hardest part of becoming a parent. Really enjoy meeting up with friends but am happiest pootling about by myself. Pre-DC I had loads of time alone (teacher with non-teacher DH) and it was bloody brilliant.

I don’t really like people.

When I win the lottery I’m going to buy an old sea fort and live there alone with a dog.

Absolutely need to be alone, but am never lonely. Live with OH and kids have now flown the nest. Got lots of friends, family and lots of invites to outings and meals etc. However - I need lots of 'me time' that might involve sitting in the garden with a magazine, going out for coffee and a read of the newspaper or a wander round some new space, house, shops or garden. I'm far from anti social, but am just happy for time to think and chill uninterrupted.

God I love time all alone OP. You are not weird at all!

I love my quiet time on my own. My absolute favourite thing is to make a big mug of strong tea, listen to The Archers omnibus and do a jigsaw. Utter bliss.

I spent my 20s and 30s not understanding that I need solitude. I now accept and understand it.

I read an interesting article that said we are not teaching children to cope with/enjoy being alone - i.e. we focus on making sure children are 'sociable', and by punishing them by sending them to their room to be alone. As pp said being alone is not being lonely. You can be lonely around lots of people. I was an only child so spent lots of time amusing myself. I hope I am teaching my dcs to enjoy their own company and to know how amuse themselves without a screen!