To feel my weight determines my worth?

[LittleMermaidRose]

I'm about 3 stone overweight.
I have a wonderful partner, friends and family.
Somehow I wonder how they could ever love me or even like me. Do they look at me and feel disgust? Am I a disappointment? Am I embarrassing?
Would they love me more if I were skinny?

I'm so scared that one day they'll all have had enough of me and I'll be left alone. Sometimes I'm scared to speak in case I say the wrong thing.

I'm trying my best to eat healthy and I exercise every day, losing about 2lbs per week. But I feel like I'm not getting results fast enough and I'm embarrassed to eat anything when I'm around them because I feel like I make them sick!!

2 lbs per week is a healthy rate of weight loss.

As long as you're not stuffing your face and slobbering I doubt they would find your eating gross.

It sounds as if this is really bothering you. You might want to consider finding a licensed therapist to talk to about this. Unfortunately it's not uncommon for women to be unhappy about their weight, especially in a society that's obsessed with being slim. What you want to do is ensure that the unhappiness doesn't lead to an eating disorder.

I feel similar. I think about my appearance constantly.

I can remind myself how my partner loves me, and tells me so every day. My work hired me at this weight and have only known me at this weight. If it was a problem I would not be where I am. It is something I can and will improve. I've lost weight since starting this job and will continue to do so.

And I am far more overweight than you, OP.

Your weight is not and cannot be the only issue here. Please think about the possibility of depression. It is not at all uncommon.

I am really sorry to hear you feel like that. And anyone on the thread feels like that.

My Dsis was 21stone after slimming world she lost 8 stone, I loved her then, I love her now no different. I would never think a friends waist size would determine how I feel about them. Please work on your self worth, You are worth so much.

Change your thinking for you. I can guarantee you that your family wouldn't love you more if you were skinny. Put yourself in the mindset are there any of your friends that you would love more if they were skinny??? Thought not. But I bet you could find more love for them if they were happy laughing smiling. That is what really matters, I promise you.

I had some issues with DP, he had a big weight gain, he was using food as crutch. After reading some threads about how some people feel about them self gave me more perspective and we talked, it turn out for both of us, I was pissed out and withdrawing, he was withdrawing as he was depressed, food is a crutch. Do you know what as long as he ok mentally we will be ok.

You don’t have a weight issue, you have a self esteem issue.
We are always are own worst critic.
Your weight loss of 2lb a week is healthy, sustainable and extremely admirable.
Confidence is more attractive than skinniness. Learn to love yourself.