Here goes.
Been together 3.5 years and have 1Dc aged 1 who was a shock very early on but we stayed through it. We were very much in love when we met an he still tells me how in love with me he is and tells me I'm beautiful etc multiple times every day. I don't know if I feel the same way.
For one thing my sex drive dropped right off after having a baby so I don't feel like it that often. I'm not too confident about my own body right now and i am trying to lose some weight. My partner has been saying he wants to lose weight for years ever since I met him and has never done anything about it just snacks constantly and is very unhelpful with my effort to lose weight constantly trying to tease me into drinking wine and eating unhealthy meals even though I ask him not to.
He didn't help out after having our baby. He let me feed baby all hours of the night and never helped, still doesn't even though we both work - me only part time (self employed artist) and him FT - and is lazy and doesn't do much with DC unless I ask.
Doesn't do any housework. Ever.
BUT does care deeply about me, loves his child, provides for the family. If I left him I'd be ruining my child's chance at having a family unit and we wouldn't have enough money to live. Would probably have to move in with my DM who is chronically ill.
Do these feelings pass? Can you get past feeling like you no longer love someone and work things out? I did love him once but I feel like I'd rather just be on my own with the baby as I do everything myself anyway. Feeling fed up.