To think friend’s boyfriend shouldn’t come?

[Chandler4tye]

My friend moved abroad a few months ago with her boyfriend. We’ve been talking about meeting up in a city that’s a couple of hours flight from her but longer for me. I’d love to see her, but she wants to bring her boyfriend along. Apparently he can’t wait to see the city.

Aibu to think she should meet me without him and he can go and see the city another time? We won’t be able to have proper conversations with him there.

Have you raised it with her? Say you're really looking forward to seeing her and catching up and would prefer it to be the pair of you

Focus on the positives and make it clear its not about him, or not liking him etc. Just about your friendship.

Difficult to say without the rest of the story.
If you lived in the same town, I'd say of course she should come alone for lunch / catch up but you are talking about flying out for a weekend break, I think that's different. If I were the boyfriend I'd probably like to come away to a nice City with my girlfriend, even if she then went off for a 4 hour lunch with her mate on her own, whilst I did a bit of sightseeing.
People move on in life. Perhaps you could take time to become friends with her new partner, and strngthen the relationship.

I’ve told her I can’t get the holidays. I’d feel like a spare part with just me and a couple. I’m disappointed because I’d love to see her, but the conversation couldn’t flow properly with her boyfriend there anyway.

I’d feel the same.

id feel the same.

Im not going out of my way and to great expense just to play gooseberry

You’re talking about taking a city break together, in a place neither of you live, that you’ve planned together, it’s weird to have him tag along. Say you’d envisaged the two of you having a weekend together, not you tagging along on their weekend break. I don’t understand how many women don’t get this?

Uh, that’s a no.

Unless I was genuinely friends with both of them and he had something to occupy himself with most of the time (like a sport, or a conference or other friends)