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Should I go to this wedding?

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GalwayWayfarer · 19/05/2018 08:16

Morning MN - need some collective wisdom!

One of my husband's close friends is getting married today. I had dinner with some friends last night, got home and felt very unwell - I had chills so bad I was shaking but DH said I felt burning hot. I took some paracetamol and went to sleep, then woke up early this morning with (TMI coming up) absolutely horrific diarrhoea. I now think I am through the worst of it and I feel fine otherwise now.

Will I be ok just to take a couple of Imodium and go to the wedding? I feel like it's probably just food poisoning and not a bug that I'm going to give everyone, but the venue is quite a drive away from home.

I obviously don't want to miss the wedding - will I be ok to miss it? I'd need to leave in about 2 hours to get there.

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GalwayWayfarer · 19/05/2018 08:17

Sorry that last sentence should say will I be ok to go!!

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Thewhale2903 · 19/05/2018 08:20

If it's food poisoning and not infectious then it just depense if your up to it. If you think it's infectious do not go!! Remember thpugh if it's food poisoning be careful what you eat and drink could make it worse especially alcohol, you could be in the toilet all day!

Rainagain1 · 19/05/2018 08:21

Are you staying nearby the wedding so have hotel room to disappear off to?
If you are feeling over the worst not unreasonable to go.

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GalwayWayfarer · 19/05/2018 08:22

@Thewhale2903 good point! I'm driving so no need to worry about booze but I'll need to watch the rich food. I'm hoping not a bug because I already feel so much better but it's hard to know for sure. I have a couple more hours to decide Confused

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GalwayWayfarer · 19/05/2018 08:23

@Rainagain1 unfortunately not, it's a couple of hours from home so plan is just to drive there and back. It's the drive that's worrying me most I think!

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Yokatsu · 19/05/2018 08:27

I wouldn't want anyone who had horrific diarrhoea that night anywhere near me let alone army wedding. Imagine if it turned out to be norrovirus and the happy couple ended up missing their honeymoon because you have it too them.

There's a small place in hell kept for people who don't follow the 48 hour rule.

Yabvu

Yokatsu · 19/05/2018 08:30

Let alone at my wedding that should read.

Also speaking as someone who caught my ex MIL "food poisoning" 24 hours later cos she wouldn't keep to the 48hour rule either

Pastaagain78 · 19/05/2018 08:32

I wouldn’t go. You don’t know if you are contagious and would feel awful if you made others ill especially vulnerable people.

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GalwayWayfarer · 19/05/2018 08:33

@Yokatsu indeed, that would be the worst case scenario! That's what's giving me pause even though it doesn't at all feel like a bug IYSWIM. I've texted the friends I was with to see if they got sick from the same food in case that helps me work out what's going on!

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sexnotgender · 19/05/2018 08:38

I wouldn’t go, weddings tend to have older relatives and I’d feel dreadful if I gave something to one of them.

Monny1 · 19/05/2018 08:38

Another saying don’t go. You don’t know if it’s food poisoning for definite and it’s not fair on the bride and groom and the guests too.

SheStoopsToConker · 19/05/2018 08:43

The last thing you want to do is give the Queen the runs OP!

sexnotgender · 19/05/2018 08:44

If it’s not food poisoning you are knowingly exposing:
Older relatives
Pregnant women
Young babies
Anyone who doesn’t fancy a horrendous dose of the shits.

gingerbreadbiscuits · 19/05/2018 08:45

Food poisoning is often contiguous.

Starlight2345 · 19/05/2018 08:46

Another don’t go here.

Lots of elderly relatives , a beige and groom who will not thank you if you pass it onto them or their guests

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GalwayWayfarer · 19/05/2018 08:48

Thanks all for your responses!

I've just been sick which is the matter decided really - I can't risk infecting others! Will send DH on his own and stick to my bed Envy

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GalwayWayfarer · 19/05/2018 08:48

@SheStoopsToConker that would be very undignified Grin

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ChasedByBees · 19/05/2018 08:51

Thank goodness you’re not going.

Aridane · 19/05/2018 08:56

Hope,you feel better soon

Graphista · 19/05/2018 08:59

Good you've chosen not to go.

Truth is you don't know what's caused it.

And btw food poisoning IS contagious in some cases - i don't know where people are getting the idea it isn't.

Rest up op fluids only for 24 hrs.

dayinlifeof · 19/05/2018 09:05

No, especially not if it's in Windsor.

Yokatsu · 19/05/2018 09:06

Feel better soon @GalwayWayfarer !

Hope I didn't come down too heavy on you. I've had a SN child hospitalised from norrovirus so feel particularly strongly about it. Ironically he was in a particularly bad state because I'd tried to stay home as long as possible and not spread it around...BlushSad that's the time not to stay home!

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GalwayWayfarer · 19/05/2018 09:09

@Yokatsu no that's ok! I think I was feeling so bad about missing the wedding that I was trying to find a way to be there, sometimes it takes a stranger to give your head a wobble! Sorry about your DC, I can only imagine how scary that was! Flowers

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diddl · 19/05/2018 09:09

"a beige and groom"

GrinGrin

Thewhale2903 · 19/05/2018 09:10

Sorry when's food poisoning ever contagious? You cannot catch food poisoning off another person!

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