To force dh to Disney world

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We have a limited budget for everything to come in for a 2week holiday in July for two adults and 5yo for up to £4K. We get travel discounts from friends.

Dh has found a deal to a not great hotel in Caribbean for £3k in July (st kitts)
Or all stars resort (3*) in disneyworld Orlando including park tickets (with mates rates) for £3k.
Both have no food included and I’m pretty aware £1k isn’t a lot for extras in Disney world but I realllllly want to go.

Husband says he doesn’t want to go to DW. He keeps comparing it to DL Paris which imo is ridiculous as hes not been to Florida one.

I really want to go to DW and actually am not keen on a non resort hotel in Caribbean with our hyper, never ever sleeps 5 yo. I can’t see what we’d do with her once it turns nighttime and whenever I’ve been to Caribbean pre dd I just used to go to bars etc.

Aibu to insist we go DW or are we going to end up breaking the budget?! It would not be holiday of lifetime or anything like that so would really be food and maybe trips that need the extra money.

Go to DW my DH whinged all the way up to going then loved it. Where going back this year :-)

Check when you need to book to get the meal plan included, it often comes up with all stars

I don't think you can afford it. DW is eyewateringly expensive. Also 5 is quite young, I'd wait a couple of years to get the most out of it.

But the other option isn't great either. Back to the drawing board maybe?

Caribbean will be boring for a five year old and if food is not included it is expensive to dine out.

Sorry but I wouldn't want to go on my holidays - just not my thing. And I wouldn't appreciate someone trying to "force" me.

£4k is a pretty healthy budget for a 2-week holiday for a family of 3 - surely you can think of some other options you would all enjoy? Short haul might make your money go further.

Disney!! Gould will be cheaper in USA. Much better fir kid. Disney resort is nothing like Disney Paris.... Paris sucks in comparison!!

Disney.... Disney .... Mickey all the way!

YABU.

If anyone forced me to Disneyworld it would be the end of that relationship on two counts:

1. They are taking no notice of my wishes or opinion

2.I loathe all things Disney and would be thoroughly unhappy.

Go on your own if it means that much to you.

(A child who never ever sleeps? Not possible)

Why is it your DH doesn't want to go? I sympathise with him, because you couldn't pay me to go to a Disneyland park! It does sound as though you might need to rethink your whole plan based on your budget. I hope you can find a compromise that you both like.

We did Disney on £5k alll in for 5

It's possible

The respites are more expensive than local hotels - look up the water park hotel off the main strip

I think men see holidays differently to woman who want to keep the kids happy! He's no longer single and Dianeyvwill be a chance to relax some days and be busy others.

We did morning pool afternoon parks morning shopping afternoon pool-

There something for everyone to enjoy

Been to Caribbean and Disney: loved both as would your DH and DD. But not worth doing either if you can’t really afford it. Go somewhere closer to home, all inclusive, this year. Cyprus has lots of all-inc deals.
Save up more money and book a year in advance for Disney another time.

I wasn’t keen on DLP but DW is amazing and your 5 yo will have a great time. DH and I chose to go to DW because we thought that the children would love it and remember it - I hadn’t expected to really like it too. I think that you might be a bit curmudgeonly, if you didn’t!

TBH, I dint think you should go to either. If you've been to both before go somewhere totally new that will suit you all.

@GreenTulips thanks for that.

Ok just to set the scene, we can ‘afford’ to go over budget but don’t want to as want to book another holiday this year.

We’ve been on about 20 long haul holiday in last few years with dd but always tried to go to places with late night entertainment as she never sleeps on holiday. The one time we tried a Spanish hotel it was stunning 5* everything you could want but when entertainment shut down at 8pm we were soooooo bored walking around for two weeks trying to entertain her for 14 longggg days. Never again, and that’s what’s putting me off Caribbean.

It won’t be holiday of lifetime, we can go again next year but I just fancy going because at least 5yo won’t get bored and I’ve been before and I really think grumpy dh will enjoy it but every year he moans about holidays right up to going and then he enjoys himself. He also likes to leave everything until the last minute so that Europe is pretty much on par with these prices now!

My ex used to dictate our holidays. One of the reasons he is my ex. It would have been great if everyone's wishes could have been taken into account.
What about something for everybody? Few days at Disneyland, few days elsewhere?

Really sorry but for 3 people, you need more than 1k for 2 weeks in Disney world.

DH and I went in October 2 years ago and spent around 3k for just the 2 of us, granted, we did a lot of shopping but it was mostly on food.

This year we're going and staying at Disney with a full dining plan and taking $2000 for our spending (plus 1 infant now).

I'd budget at least $100 a day for just food, leaving no room for souvenirs etc. Also, tipping takes a good chunk of money too.

Why don't you do eurocamp or something similar for a couple of years? You could easily do this for £2K so bank the other £2K for the next two years then spend £8K found DW really well when dd is 7 and might get more out of it.

When they're little, all they need is your tine/focus, some sunshine and a pool and a playground. That'll change. Take advantage now - holidays are only going to have to get more expensive as they get older.

@LynetteScavo where should we go do you think? I don’t know where to go in July long haul that we haven’t already been to. My dh was supposed to sort holiday in January when there were a lot of deals on. He sat on it and I literally have to beg to sort the holiday out every year.

I resent paying more for a holiday in Spain than I would to DW. We only get the discount to the places mentioned in OP.

It’s wrong to force anyone to go on a holiday they don’t want.

Sounds like you need to go back to the drawing board!

If DH really doesn’t want to do DW it may turn out to be a rubbish holiday. My DH is keen on the whole parks thing, but we have done it a couple of times, wouldn’t go back now because of my mobility issues.

We did DW on a budget, took a snack with us from the supermarket, took our own drinks etc, we kept to a very tight budget, and had dinner out on the evenings or pizza delivered to our motel. However if you are staying in DW it would be more expensive.

I hope you find a great holiday and have a lovely time.

I’m with your husband, the crowds and humidity would mean hell on earth to me.
There has to be a compromise between 2 weeks on a beach and Disney.

Look at the Magic hotels in Benidorm
All inclusive water parks, zoo, kids clubs and activities, all included in the price. Plus there's a large Theme park and the beeches and shopping.

When you say your ds doesn't sleep, what exactly do you mean? How much does he sleep, and is he better at home?

Short haul with no time difference might actually help. You could try a week in a Eurocamp and a week in a cottage - both would give you more room to spread out than a hotel and you'd have kids clubs to occupy him (and tire him out!) during the day if that appealed, and entertainment during the evening until late.

Perhaps this wouldn't appeal at all, but if ds really sleeps so little on holiday maybe it's worth trying something different?

Maybe my OP is a bit misleading in that we are choosing to budget to £4K, it’s not a lot to us but we want to go away at Christmas as we do every year. It’s just this year I’ve said I’m not doing the whole 8 week summer holiday alone and trying to get him to take some annual leave and come on holiday which he’s been dragging his feet about for the last six months since our last holiday!

I resent spending the £4K on a holiday that would have been a lot less had dh just bloody booked one of the deals I found in January.

Did I mention dh is also a holiday snob. Benidorm is off the list. Ahhhh maybe I need to book DW for just me and 5 yo!!

I'd prefer to stay at home than Disney land/world.

Just look for other destinations if neither the Caribbean or Florida appeal to you both.

Do Disney, my husband really didn't want to go years ago when I suggested as a couple, but he really enjoyed the whole 2 weeks.
We were in and out of DW, Universal Studios, Kennedy and everything else. Point out to him that just because you are in the resort, you certainly do not have to stay there all the time.
Try and get hire car in price of holiday, and go enjoy!
we have been back twice since with ds (when 6 and 9), now waiting for dd to reach about 6 so we can go again!