Step mum issues!

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My DP proposed to me recently and we have booked our wedding for July this year.
My dad and I used to be so close but for the last 20 years but now I only see him twice a year.
I've decided not to invite my step mum to my wedding as I only see her once every 2 years and she isn't very nice every time I see her.
My dad understands why I don't want her there but is now being distant. We are having a very small ceremony.
Should I just invite her and be uncomfortable or should I stick to my guns and not have her there?

Stick to your guns. I hate, loathe and detest my SM. She had turned an entire side of my family against me. Even for my dad’s sake, I didn’t invite her. I knew they wouldn’t have turned up anyway as they have never turned up to birthdays, christenings etc in the past so my wedding wasn’t going to be any different. They enjoyed having a good bitch and whinge about it though. Made it common knowledge.

I regret nothing.

Are they married?

It's a difficult call.

A partners first loyalty is to their partner. So if my partner was ostracised, I would stand with him, and he would with me.

So do you want a relationship with your father or not? Which is kind of irrelevant because if you've sent invitations/had the discussion, even if you retract, she will know you don't want her there, ergo the damage is done.

I never see the point of creating family discord for the hell of it.

No don’t. I allowed myself to be pressinto inviting unpleasant people to my wedding and I desperately regretted it.