Name changed as this is identifying.
My wife and I adopted two sisters when they were 3 and 18 months. Their mum was pregnant at the time the adoption went through and we agreed to adopt the baby. This was 5 years ago. We now have three girls aged 9, 7 and 5. The youngest was born addicted to drugs and we had an incredibly hard first few months with her, my wife struggled to bond with her and at times said she wished we had never adopted her. However 5 years on we both love her to bits and have zero regrets.
We have recently been told by social services that the mum is pregnant again and is very likely to be born addicted again. Despite my wife struggling with our youngest, she 100% wants to take on the sibling of our girls. She says she knows what to expect this time.
However it is me who is torn. I absolutely want my daughter's to have their sibling with them and we are financially able to have a 4th child and have the space but I am terrified what to do.
Baby is due in July so will be here fairly soon.