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evergreen7 · 18/05/2018 20:00

Just want to double check if IBU or not.

Currently on Mat leave but before that used to work PT evenings so usually free during the day. I have 2 DCs and would usually visit my DM and DF (DPs) once a week whenever they had a day off usually stayed from 10am to anything between 3-5pm.
Always weekdays as weekends are generally for me DCs and OH to spend time together and we usually have stuff on like swimming on Saturdays, birthday parties, days out etc

DM recently asked me what days DS will be doing at nursery come September (he gets 30hrs so will be doing 4 full days) as she said she will speak to her supervisor and make sure she gets the days off. She works in a restaurant so most of her shifts are weekends anyway.
She has come back and said she will be getting every other Friday off and every other weekend off and it would be good if I could start coming down on a Saturday EOW.

WIBU to say that I will just come over EOW on the weekdays and leave the weekends as they are?

They will still get to see DS for near enough a full day every 2 weeks and I can pop around with DS2 when DS1 is at school too.
OH works a lot through the week and barely sees DCs and I don't want to take any time away when we could all be together (him and my DPs are NC -won't go into it ATM and please don't focus on this as it's not relevant to the question - but I want to mention it as it means we can't all pop down together on a weekend).

Just wanted to get opinions as I'm almost certain it will cause a bit of upset.

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GummyGoddess · 18/05/2018 20:02

Did they do similar with your grandparents when you were a child?

Ceecee18 · 18/05/2018 20:12

YANBU. I'm keep weekends free from my parents visits as it's our only time as a family, and the only time DPs parents get to see DD as they all work full time in the week and my parents work 12 hour shifts and have days off in the week. I've also tried to avoid getting into a routine with visits as I know my parents will come to expect it and it'll be a lot more difficult when my mat leave ends. And I don't want to end up with regular weekend visits in years to come once DD is in school.

NerrSnerr · 18/05/2018 20:20

Just tell your mum you have swimming, parties etc on a weekend so will have to do every other Friday. She must realise that if she can't see your whole family together (for whatever reason) you'll be limited in hen you'll want to visit?

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