I am a mum of four and after thirty years of marriage my husband cheated on me . I found he had gone off to work but really was having numerous fun affairs over many many years . I had given my life to having our family and dedicated myself to my children and him so when I discovered the infidelity it wa a huge shock . He had been living a double life almost thankfully I believe he has not had any other children .I tried desiratelyvti save my marriage went to counselling and didn’t want to be a split family but couldn’t trust him again so he left . I have tried to protect my children and not tell them any of the horrid details but it seems to have back fires in me.
I have tried to be positive and move on and did find someone else who I live with and have a house with .
But the last five years nearly saw me have a breakdown with the whole situation and now my youngest is a bout to graduate the co parent is getting difficult as the ex has remarried and my daughter thinks he is wonderful and the new wife is too . Probably I didn’t give as much time as I could to her as I was surviving living but tried to be there asbest I could .She thinks w were just unhappy and he left because of that and therefore felt sorry for him and he is her hero . I feel so hurt and upset that he has taken away my future and seems to come up smelling of roses and his wife is streaking my daughter .i has planned surprise things and each time he gets in first . I can’t seem to do anything right and she innocently can’t see the huge trail of destruction he made and resents me for not moving on and I feel sorry she has to feel torn between us .i try to be positive and be seen as accepting the situation but she witnessed my near breakdown and sees me as weak and not moving in and dad as the superhero .
Why is being a parent and hiding the truth causing me to be the baddie here....