Being close to your children

[brummie89]

If you have more than one child, are you close to them both or do you have a stronger bond with one of them?

I have twins. I think they are equally fantastic.

I just can’t imagine being closer to one than another.

I have two daughters with a 9 year age gap. I couldn't imagine loving DD2 as much as DD1 but I do!

They are both very different and we have different relationships. They need me for different things.

It’s hard to say. My son and I are alike emotionally, so that makes us close as we really understand each other. But no shared interests.
Mu daughter and I have more in common, and spark off each other well, really enjoy going out together etc.
So it’s just different, hard to say which is closer.

One of mine's NC, the other 3 I have no preference.

I always used to think I have a closer bond with dd(9) as we share the same interest and it takes up quite a lot of our time so ds(11) goes to grandparent's a lot.

However nothing compares to how much I love squidging up on the sofa under a blanket watching tv with ds when dd is in bed. That's our time and it's perfect.
I love them both equally.

I'm close to them all. In different ways. DC2 is more like me than DC 1 & 3 so easier to relate to. The other 2 are more physically affectionate, always coming to me for hugs etc, even the 12 year old! I adore them all and have a very strong bond with all 3.

I have three sons, now young adults. I'm very close to all of them in different ways, and it's always been that way. Never one over the others.

I have different relationships and have different shared interests. My two oldest are teens and planning their futures. I believe I love them equally but I can see DS1 being more like me in that he will travel and settle somewhere new whereas DD is more of a homebird. Only the future will tell how our relationships develop after that.

Yes I have a stronger bond with my first born.

Hi have a different bond with both of my children. My DS is just turning 14 and I have been a agony aunt when he breaks up/arguments with friends and girlfriends, he always comes to me for advice which I love. I feel he needs protecting more (maybe because he is my first) and has always been an emotional child. My DD is 10 and started her period 2 months ago and although we were close anyway (she was closer to her dad) we have grown a different bond since this. She is very independent but clingy at the same time and we spend a lot of time together.

I have two DS. I used to be closer to the older one, because we are so much alike, same sense of humour, same outlook on life. My other son was more like DH. My older son moved in with his girlfriend when he was twenty, so that left my younger son at home. Over the years I have become just as close to my younger son, and realised what a lovely, caring, generous, loving man he is. Thank God I am lucky enough to be loved equally by both of them. It could have turned out so much more differently.

I have twin boys. They are very different personalities, but I am close to both of them. I do different things with each though.