Knowing midwife when in labour

[ALY44]

Due to give birth soon.

A parent who's daughter goes to school with my daughter is a midwife at the hospital. they keeps telling me what days they are working around my due date and how they hope they are working when I'm in labour..... Aibu to request that they do not take part in my care as I find it really uncomfortable having someone there whom I know in this capacity?

You wont care when it comes to it I reckon. I had a midwife who'd been to my school with ds and it was fine- hospital nowhere near the area I grew up!

God, I'd hate being looked after by someone I k ew socially. Just make sure you ask for someone else to care for you when you go in - it's a perfectly reasonable request and I'm sure they will understand why you feel this way.

@blackteasplease as already stated I've given birth before so know that I would care

Hi lass

Just clearly say that you know this midwife and aren't comfortable with her being present unless there is urgent need or emergency (all hands alert basically).

In our area if that happens they must respect it but it can mean that water birth is cancelled due to shirt staff or maybe being taken to consultant led for again staff levels.

Good luck!

One of my close friends is a midwife in the hospital where my first was born. We agreed she not get involved, in case something went wrong or there was an aspect of my care that wasn't great through bad luck and circumstance. (I have no worries about her competence) I would want her support in those circumstances, not having any thoughts about blame.

My neighbour is a midwife and a lovely woman who has given me help and advice in both my pregnancies. However when I was in hospital with my dd she requested not to work in my area on the postnatal ward as she didn't think it was appropriate. She came to say hello but that was it. I'm thankful she did this as I had a catheter etc and it would have made me very uncomfortable to have her doing the care.
You are in no way unreasonable to not want her at the birth it is your body and choice.

That's just not worth the use of the @ to tell me that!