to ask if you know any therapists personally?

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Do you find them generally stressy/panicky/worrying people? Massive stereotype, I know but I work in a job where I have to deal with people who do different types of courses, all types, but 9 times out of 10 when I have someone crying to me or panicking or getting generally stressed out and dramatic over the tiniest things they turn out to be doing something like Therapeutic Counselling or Child Therapy or along the lines of that. Completely understandable (to me) that training like that could make people all of those things but just wondering if anyone else thinks the same.

On a side note, the nastiest people tend to be training as yoga teachers (not nearly as prominent as the above example though).

I knew one who used to share confidential information about all of her clients as juicy gossip and ridicule them! Happy to say not in my life anymore. I know another who is just very pleasant and a bit nervous but gives great advice.

Not sure about counselling -or yoga- but my (ex) Pilates teacher is the most hated woman in the village! Cold, judgy and grabby..to name her three more socially acceptable qualities.

My DIL is in training, and my friend is an experienced therapist. Both truly lovely, thoughtful, insightful and intelligent people. Also know how to let their hair down.

I know two!
One is lovely perfect for the job you can totally see it in her personality.
The other not so much, mocks clients and looks down upon people who's life choices aren't quite as calculated as hers.
Guess which ones successful in her career and which ones had to change paths?

Work with lots and as in other professions they come in all shapes and sizes. Calm, stressful, approachable and friendly, mean and arrogant.
I suppose this is why one therapist doesn’t suit everyone’s needs.
I may have a fantastic relationship with someone, you may find them rude and unhelpful.

Thanks for the replies. The general consensus then it seems is that whilst therapists can be lovely or mean, calm or stressed and helpful or unhelpful depending on the person, Yoga teachers (and Pilates) are just plain nasty and horrible

I find it depends but I've worked with, been friends with and managed multitudes of counsellors over the years and I find that those who lose a healthy level of common sense tend to be very difficult as people

Also those early on....being a counsellor requires a lot of introspection and outside supervision to manage recovering others emotions on a daily basis and often new in trainees think that it isn't necessary

My Dsis started a course and was in no way in an appropriate mental health place for it and became a sodding nightmare...she trotted out buzz phrases and then behaved like a giant passive aggressive asswipe

Saying that I also knew a high level supervisor level counsellor with great credentials who had a screwed up perspective on relationships and openly equated money with intelligence (that friendship came to an end when she asked me if my marriage was ending because we had been to her refurbed house and felt jealous and had decided to split up lolol)

However I've also met some wonderful him an beings who were counsellors but if I'm honest 80%of them were nightmares personally...although often very good at their job

My mum was a therapist prior to retirement, and she's generally quite a calm and emotionally stable person (at least from my POV) and also organised, always early, and fairly tidy.

Ha ha ha ha ha! I couldn't possibly make an intelligent response to this, as I'm a retired psychotherapist AND yoga teacher.
But thank you, it made me laugh!

I know one. He's been struggling with mental health problems for the last ten years but managed to overcome most of his issues, I think. He's a good listener and very non-judgemental but maybe a bit highly strung, yes.

Yes 3 of them and all unsuitable!

One is a relationship/sexual therapist and her own personal life is a hot mess. Another is a child psychologist and her own child had to ask her to get referred for ASD diagnosis as he was struggling. She comes across as awkward and neurotic. The third was in social work field and very judgemental needing to feel superior to her clients and a disaster in any kind of interpersonal relationships but likes to give unsolicited advice and an expert on everything

It's really put me off that field!

a psychologist (retired) - more issues than you can shake a stock at, massively controlling to her partner and very stressy.

I know 2 and yes, completely as you described.

Zariya Lufu on facebook. She is amazing for childhood therapy.

Yes, she is a lovely person.

Like all professions you will have a mix of people in them, not all good.

My girlfriend is a psychotherapist. She is really calm and easy going. Her empathy skills can be a little bit lacking though! But I think this is due to listening to peoples woes all day every day.. It's bound to have an effect.

Are we talking about Meghan’s mum? Is this a stealth thread about The Wedding?

SIL is a counsellor and as calm and grounded as they come. She did, however, say a lot of the course members had significant issues when they started their training.

I know one therapist really well. Better than anyone else knows her. It's me.

I'm calm, laid-back, and easily keep my emotions in check. Don't get me wrong, I can get upset/worried, but my emotions never feel 'out of control'. I'm not sure I could do my job to the best of my abilities, if I was easily stressed.

I trained as a person-centred counsellor, quite a long course. About 15 other people. 14 I would trust with my life. The other not so much... in fact she went out of her way to cause a major fall out on the last residential weekend, which had the potential to damage relationships, until a discussion revealed that she had deliberately engineered it that way. Very odd, and worrying for her future clients.

I do. She is a a wonderful friend for lots of reasons but she is very caring and considerate and doesn't judge which i find amazing. She shows great empathy and makes me feel validated in my feelings. Currently training but i know she will be a brilliant counsellor when qualified.

I did a year of psychology at university before moving on to something more enjoyable. A lot of my classmates had serious issues which is what got them into psychology. Some in therapy just decided why not do that themselves? People who weren’t particularly stable tended to drop out before the end anyway. You have to be very committed to turn up for an 8am statistics lecture on a Monday morning. A passing interest won’t cut it.

DF's DP is very clingy.

Yes, quite a few, including one consultant psychiatrist, and she's one of the most high-maintenance people I know. (though to be fair to her, she hides it well)

But, I used to work with a bunch of child psychotherapists and they were all, to a (wo)man, completely mad.

I know lots via my work. They are all calm, relaxed people