To wonder why the hell I feel this way about an older man.

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I am happily married, we’ve been having extensive work to our home for the past 4 months.

One of the guys has taken a shine to me, made a lot of comments which I smile and take with a pinch of salt. But now I can’t stop thinking about him and even though I’d never want to do anything with him or cheat etc I just have had dreams about him being around and he’s always on my mind.

Seems like a crush. Marriage can lack excitement. I suppose he provides that? Whatever you do don’t be another notch on his bored housewife list!

He's had years of honing his patter. It's probably the 1st time in a while that you've been on the receiving end of attention from another man. You're flattered, nothing wrong in that, but it's just patter.

I feel so bad being swept off my feet by his sweet talk. My husband is so lovely and I can’t believe my mind is thinking this wayz

As long as it stays just in your mind OP there's nothing wrong really.

Thanks but when I’m with him I feel so alive. It’s like a burning feeling through my body of nerves and butterflies.

Must never see him again.

Completely normal. One of the bricklayers working on my house he must have only been about 20 took a shine to me a couple of months ago, and now I flutter a bit when he's there will miss him when the house is finally finished

It’s a crush. You will get over it

Oh it's just a crush. Obviously don't overstep the mark, you know that, but don't feel like a bad prrson for it. Everyone gets crushes. Tradesmen are notorious flirts (I work in the industry) and his game is likely second to none... but it's probably just fun for him too.

I took a bit of a shine to a much much older man who does an activity I do. I found myself doing and saying stuff that would meet his approval.

I was actually telling my DH how cool he was, how he was into into the same stuff, had done the same sort of stuff as him, when it dawned on me: the guy is my DH in 25 years time. He even looks and dresses how my DH will probably look and dress in 25 years time.

I've been crushing on old DH . Is the guy anything like your OH?

Glad to know it’s normal.

To be honest he’s the complete opposite of DH. But the way he speaks to me and the names he calls me just make me swoon so badly, when I popped to the shops this PM and saw his van gone I was actually down that I missed his goodbye.

It’s because it’s flattering and it’s fun.

It’s ok to feel good about being desired, it’s good for the soul!

A wonderful crush. Enjoy it. Don't feel guilty and don't worry, in my experience they go 'pooof' very quickly. One morning he will belch loudly, leave a submarine in your down stairs loo or make a derogatory comment and your crush will be over.