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To hate my dad's cremation plot

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Lucky6266 · 17/05/2018 14:00

My dad recently died and was cremated.
I thought that the burial site would be a individual chamber partitioned off but no.
It is on a long row with others there is no partition so all the urns are next to each other what's stopping one from falling onto the other and ending up in next person's section.
The plaque isn't sealed either it's just resting in.

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Lucky6266 · 17/05/2018 14:01

They are literally just standing next to each other about a few inches down. And this cost £1200

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ShowMeTheElf · 17/05/2018 14:03

I'm sorry for your loss.

Have you had the urn interred into a wall of remembrance? After the ceremony the plaque is usually mortared correctly. Is the process completed?

When exH died it was weeks after the cremation before a plot was allocated and then we had the interment ceremony weeks before the headstone was completed and fitted.

Lucky6266 · 17/05/2018 14:05

In all honesty my one sister took over the arrangements and when she asked how the urn would be interred they said it would be in a chamber.

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Lucky6266 · 17/05/2018 14:06

It's not in a wall just in a row in the ground.

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Lucky6266 · 17/05/2018 14:07

I am going to today I will check if the plaque is sealed because the way it was anybody could lift it off and remove the ashes.

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Lucky6266 · 17/05/2018 14:07

My mom doesn't like it either.

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Lucky6266 · 17/05/2018 14:11

Yes it was about 10 weeks after cremation until interment. Then they gave us a date to come and see them put into the ground.
Literally the plaque was lifted and the groundsman let my sister put them down after she had put a note inside from us all. We then put a flower in.

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ShowMeTheElf · 17/05/2018 14:17

Have you been back since? They sealing should have happened immediately after you all left the interment. If anything is not completed to your satisfaction you have every right to go back to the Funeral Directors' to have it corrected: as you said, it's a lot of money.

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