To wonder how I am going to cope?

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Long story short - I think DH is on the verge of leaving me and the children. i have been a SAHM for 7 years and don't know how I am going to cope. Not only emotionally, but mainly financially. I have no skills, virtually no qualifications or experience with anything so I can get a job. Previous to being a SAHM i had my own small business and worked as a freelancer but after all this time I have no contacts in the field anymore.

I feel absolutely STUCK and don't know which way to turn. I am terrified...

He can say what he wants. Stop listening and don't discuss your plans if you feel he will not be fair and reasonable. See a solicitor, say that you want to remain in the house until the children are old enough for you to work and secure a mortgage for your own property. Please do not be bullied.

Lovemusic thank you. thats a very smart route to go down.best of luck

I was terrified too, but you will not be left destitute. The priority in court or mediation will be housing the children with their primary carer- thats you- and how that can achieved.

It could be you stay in the house until the youngest is 18, or you get a larger equity share to be able to buy on your own, etc. He may have to rent. There are many options. The fact you are a SAHM with SN children will mean a lot in terms of ensuring the children and you are adequately housed and provided for.

You will get maintenance for children, and you may get spousal maintenance too. There will be child benefit and maybe other benefits or credits you can get.

Get your info on what you earn, assets, debts, get the mortgage value etc, as best idea of his earnings, debts savings etc and quietly see a solicitor to get an idea of your options and position.

Be strong; one step at a time

He might have to support you! Spousal maintenance is a thing.