to think dh should come home if not going far away on a night out?

[BHANNAE]

Before anyone shouts at me I am pregnant and hormonal and know that I am probably being totally unreasonable but am just feeling sorry for myself.
My dh is going out tomorrow night with a few friends, less than 25 miles away. His friend wants them all to book into a hotel for the night and come back the next day. Its going to cost them all 10 times the amount it would if they just shared a cab home and I just dont see the point.
Just to clarify, I don't have a problem with him going out.Just with the staying out all night bit.
AIBU?

It probably is being unreasonable, but I'd feel the same as you.

Well, I don't think you are being unreasonable,but that's because my dh wouldn't ever want to stay in a hotel if he could come home. What are your worries/concerns about your dh staying out?

Btw I think some men in particular are very childish in relationships!

25 miles is nothing!!!

In fact, I would offer to go and pick him up

my dh would never waste the money if there was a cheaper alternative

If money is an issue, then YANBU. If money isn't an issue, I'd let it lie (unless you have reason to be worried about what he'd get up to). If all his mates are staying over, he might be responding to peer pressure (diddums)?

I would not want to stay out all night and dont understand why he would if he has the option of being home with me
He says he wants to go because he'll be able to have a shower(ours is broke)as a joke.
I think I just feel hurt that he wants to stay out and I know what a dickhead his friend can be.

Has he done this before?

25 mile taxi ride between 4 of them would be ....ooh, £10 each max? Has he explained why he wants to stay out all night - is he planning to get so trolleyed that he'll be incapable of getting into a taxi? What's the occasion?

YANBU

He isnt a big drinker and will often go out and come home sober.The prospect of an affair does not worry me but I hate that he does whatever his friend says.
The fact that they will be drinking and he will be goading him on worries me a little.
I know I abu and should be able to trust 4 nigh on 50yr olds lol but Im just peed off.

My DH has stayed at a friend's house when they went out for a late night in Camden, rather than getting a taxi home to SW London. I preferred that myself TBH. Hotel - no, too expensive. That's what it boils down to for me, not really bothered by the companionship aspect, i think it's OK for him to have some silly times with his friends, he doesn't go out that often, let alone overnight.

OK, after more clarification from you I think you are being unreasonable. The money doesn't worry you, nor an affair, nor the drinking, just the thought that he might actually want to be with his friends for one late evening. I don't think he's seeing it as preferring them over you, just as preferring a night out.

yabu - a bit

Unless there's a concrete reason (ie. skintitude, needing him at home) then it's his night out & doesn't cause you a problem, so humour him?

I've done this with mates - it's just more FUN sometimes to know you have a hotel booked whenever the evening finishes, rather than farting about with taxis or having to clock watch because you have a lift arranged.

Unless it's the Ritz & you're boracic I'd just let him get on with it, tbh...

I know lol. I am being unreasonable
Theres no trust issue and hes a really crazy dancer so if anyone could get within ten feet it'd be a miracle.
If it were the other way round he would hate for me to stay out and I would respect that.
It also bugs me that he works nights and tonight he would have been home with me and instead he has gone to work to cover himself for tomorrow then will work sat and sun too.
Its my birthday next sat and he won't take that off as he'll lose too much money.
Like I said, totally feeling sorry for myself

I prefer it if my dp stays over if he goes out. And actually he prefers me to stay over if I do. It's great to get the kids to bed, then have a peaceful evening, rather than waiting for someone to come home. And you are waiting, with one ear on the door, even if you don't think you are. Enjoy an evening and a bed to yourself!

Thanks Jura and anniemac.
Had to giggle as it sounds like my dh even when sober
I am feeling overly hormonal today.I bleached the floor tiles til my hands were raw then considered re-grouting as the grout didnt look white enough In the end I painted the grout lines and it took me all day and nobody is allowed near the kitchen for a week until it dries
To make it worse I did it nude as didn't want to ruin the only bloody clothes that fit me

No wonder the poor man needs a night away

My dd sometimes goes out with his cousin who lives about 15 miles away and usually stays the night. I'd rather he did that than come home after a few drinks, snore all night and then moan he has a hangover the next morning.