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AIBU?

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AIBU to call the police

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Lolipop44 · 17/05/2018 08:01

So yesterday i met my friend for lunch she had 2 large glasses of wine 2 hours later i saw her on the school run collecting her 3 and 6 year old IN THE CAR i was fuming not only was she putting her kids at risk drink driving but everyone elses to.

I confronted her and told her she was unbelievable and a complete selfish idiot. She only passed her driving test 8 months ago. The thing that's most annoying is she lives a 5 minute walk from school.

I told her i was so tempted to call the police and if ever i find out she's done it again i will not hesitate to do so. She apologised over and over said she knew she'd been stupid.

Anyway i have since been told it's quite a regular thing and i feel like i should report her as I'd never forgive myself if anything ever happened to her kids (my god children) or to anyone else through her stupidity and selfishness.

Advice on what to do please would be great

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boatass · 17/05/2018 08:03

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 17/05/2018 08:11

I'd call the police if she drunk drove yes but it would have to be instantly - there is no point reporting it afterwards as the alcohol will have been processed by her liver then and there won't be any actual physical evidence so rather pointless reporting it retrospectively

RedPandaMama · 17/05/2018 08:21

2 large glasses of wine is probably about 6 units. A woman of average height and weight can process alcohol well enough that they can legally drink and drive with up to 3 units in their system. We burn off about a unit every hour after drinking alcohol, so depending on the exact time you started drinking and when she started driving, she probably would have been back down to about at the limit and gotten away with driving, provided she's average height and weight.

I have a friend in the police and she let me try out her breathalyser once. I'm tall and about 3 stone overweight and about an hour and a half after drinking 3 small glasses of wine it said my breath alcohol level was down to .28 (you can be up to .35 for driving) attached a chart for info. It varies a lot depending on weight!

She is being VU to drive potentially drunk when she lives 5 minutes away though!

bazingabazinga · 17/05/2018 08:24

In Scotland that would put you right over the limit.

Not sure what the point would be reporting retrospectively though. What proof would you have?

mustbemad17 · 17/05/2018 08:29

Without hesitation, i would (and have) report someone for this. One being a friend. There is no excuse for drink driving except being a selfish prick and I learned from experience that often the driver doesn't suffer anywhere near as much as other people if something does happen. Zero tolerence.

You'd have to report it as soon as you saw it tho, as above, there is no point doing so later

CornishMaid1 · 17/05/2018 08:34

The police can't do anything after the fact (as they need proof), but you could report that there are issues of mums at the school driving drunk for the school run. The police may station a car near by to stop and breathalyse and your friend could be caught that way.

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Lolipop44 · 17/05/2018 09:15

I didn't have my phone at the time i was on a last minute dash to pick up another friends child as she was delayed and to be honest i was in shock. Also she lives such a short distance from the school she'd of been home before the police even got there. Also it wasn't a 999 emergency and getting through to 101 to report it takes a good while to.

I have again spoken to her again today and told her how strongly i feel about it and why. I once hit a kid whilst driving completely not my fault he ran out infront of a parked car straight infront of my car (i hadn't been drinking of course) accidents can happen to easily and i just think there is no need to take risks.

Thanks for everyones help

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LimboLuna · 17/05/2018 09:26

Fucking hell the school run round here is lethal with the ludicrous driving let alone doing it pissed! Its just not worth the risk, even if she wasn't at fault for an accident (like your example) she would be because she was drinking IYKWIM. Her kids would always be known as the ones whose mum drunk drove and hit the child.

Depending on her reaction it might be worth mentioning it to the school as they can keep an eye on her at pick up..

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Lolipop44 · 17/05/2018 10:26

The school run by us is lethal to thats why I'm so angry with her.

She's swore it won't happen again and I've told her i won't hesitate to take her keys off her and call the police. She does seem sorry but it's pissed me off big time. If she couldn't be bothered to walk the whole 5 minutes to the school I'd of picked the kids up 4 her she knows that

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PureColdWind · 17/05/2018 10:31

You talked to her a second time? You need to let it go now.

Not sure how it is in the UK but here in Ireland you would have been held at fault for hitting the child despite him running out from between parked cars - you are meant to expect the unexpected, which does place a very difficult burden on drivers sometimes.

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