My DH has now told me on more than one occasion he wishes he was dead. He is clear he won't kill himself because he doesn't want to ruin our kids lives (primary age) but he sees no point in being alive and is glad his health is poor because it means he won't have to go on living for too many years.
Sure - he must be depressed but he won't go to the doctor and said he won't be able to work if he's medicated. He runs a small business which is not a disaster but not a great success.
I have suggested doctor, I want to be supportive but I don't know what to do. He doesn't have any thwarted dreams, our life is ordinary and we will survive financially. He loves the children but is fed up of looking after them. He just wants to "not exist"
I'm usually quite optimistic but I don't know what to do here...