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To wonder how I can get out of this?

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sharkirasharkira · 16/05/2018 15:54

Or even if I should?

I've been in my current job almost 6 months. I'm not earning mega wages but it is the most I've ever earnt and I'm really liking not having to worry about money for once. I enjoy it mostly, my co workers are nice and I can do the job well but the long hours and lack of a life outside work is really getting to me.

The job is quite high stress and I have developed some health problems since being here, which are not likely to resolve anytime soon
Physically it is quite demanding and I find myself so tired on my days off that I don't end up doing much except household chores. I have very few friends because I just have no time to socialise, my days off are when everyone else is working, or visa versa. I hate having to work every bank holiday, evening and weekend.

Realistically though, how do I get out of this industry? All my work experience is in catering and hospitality or retail, I would encounter the same problems pretty much anywhere similar I work in the same field. I finished a foundation degree last year but I don't know how I can find a job in a different field with no previous experience without having to either do a lot more study or take a big pay cut. I'm not sure I'm going to be able to tbh. Feeling a bit down about it because I'm feeling like I'm going to be stuck in the same situation indefinitely unless I can get out into a different industry.

I've done job searches and the vast majority of the available jobs are in nursing, accountancy and care work, none of which I would be qualified or want to go into.

Should I just suck it up and stick at it or try and get out into something else? And if so, how do I do it?!

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pigmcpigface · 16/05/2018 15:57

I think if you can feel that a job/industry is making you ill, it's better to take proactive action to get out than to stay and wait for the inevitable exhaustion/illness/breakdown.

What do you WANT to do in life? Other than being a lottery winner, I mean! What kind of job would make you get up and feel "You know what, this isn't so bad, I don't mind going to work". Start with that, then work out how you get there.

kitkatsky · 16/05/2018 15:58

Been there. Aged 25 I felt too old for hospitality management with the hours. On the whole, hospitality staff tend to be ultra turned on to customer service, so search roles around this in offices, customer experience officer that kinda role. I managed to get a 9-5 mom-fri job and it changed my life

sharkirasharkira · 28/05/2018 16:46

I think I've decided that I really do want to get out of the industry altogether. I'm just so tired of having no friends because I can't ever socialise with anyone as I'm always at work when they are off. I'm tired of the stress and the pressure and getting covering in filth and sweat every day and coming home physically exhausted. I'm fed up of having very little time to pursue other projects or hobbies and little time with Dp. But how do I make a break into another area completely when I have no job experience?

I completed a foundation degree last year and want to finish the last year through open uni but have no hope of doing that while I have this job. DF seems to think that having a foundation degree opens all sorts of jobs and I can just walk into any job now but it just doesn't work that way. The only jobs I can find that are within a commutable distance are:

Catering/hospitality (what I'm trying to get out of!)
Care work (will be very similar in terms of what I'm trying to avoid)
Accountancy (not qualified for)
Senior nurses/consultants in NHS (not qualified for)

I'm so fed up that it's starting to take a real toll on me. I feel like I'm being overly dramatic but I had a terrible day yesterday and I just really couldn't cope. I felt like a terrible failure and like my workplace would be better off without me. Couldn't stop crying and genuinely considered hurting myself, badly enough that I could either leave or get some time off work without everyone hating me. I'm not depressed in any other way it's just work is really getting to me at the moment!

Dp thinks I should just quit and he'll support me until I find something else but realistically I don't think that would work, I have always been very independent financially and I don't want to be a burden to him. Plus I don't think he actually earns enough to support both of us unless very very temporarily. Don't know what to do Sad

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NuttyNutty · 28/05/2018 18:41

There is a number of jobs in hospitality that have normal hours like Hotel Reservations. Also, you may try to move to related industry like Travel where your experience will be useful. This will require additional training which many companies offer for starter positions. It may mean a paycut to begin with but in a couple of years you can count on much higher salary and more opportunities.

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