Leaving without him knowing

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Has anyone packed their bags and left without their ex knowing? I'm on the verge of doing this and I'm terrified.

Yes, and its scary but you make sure you have somewhere to go, if needs be move the personal items that you know you will want bit by bit. Photos, sentimental things, jewellery, documents etc. Dont move anything thats noticeable.

I did it to get away from a violent and controlling person. It meant moving 250 miles away but once I shut that door behind me and set off in the car for the last time, the relief I felt was amazing.

Yes. I have. He was abusive and made threats about taking the children if we ever broke up.

I had seen a solicitor under the guise of visiting my gp and kept a bag stashed in the cupboard to take as soon as he left for work.

He was issued with a prohibited steps order when he returned from work and it was only then he knew I'd gone.

Have you taken legal advice op? Do you know where you stand with money , housing etc too?

Yes, I found out i was pregnant with second dc and decided i needed to get out then or I never would. Waited till he was out and had a friend I trusted come round with a van and load up everything I could take. It felt so many emotions at once, fear, heartbreak ( I was still so inlove with him ) and overwhelming relief to be free. It's not been easy since, I'm not exactly free of him completely as he still has contact with dc but I get to live my life how I want, eat what I want, spend my own money how i choose and that's priceless. Go, but be careful, contact women's aid if you need too

Are you in danger, OP? Please keep yourself safe.

Yes I did, luckily he worked 12 hour days so the minute he left I packed up everything of mine and my uncle waited around the corner with a van. He was abusive and controlling, and I was only a teenager in my first serious relationship.
I left him a note:
If you haven’t noticed, I’ve left you. Don’t contact me.

I won’t say what happened in the weeks after, but I was eventually free of him. I always fought him back, although he was stronger than me he always beat me down.