Divorced for ten years, have 3dc aged 12,13 and 16.
Exh has had a fair few girlfriends most recently a woman with 2 young dc who mine got quite attached to. This relationship broke down, exh told me not to let dc see her again, she's awful etc. They didn't see her, but they got back together again anyway. She has sent me messages complaining about exh and his cheating ways and general abuse. I advised her he won't change, she agreed. They broke up.
Fast forward to a new girlfriend, history repeats itself and kids really like her. They break up after a few months and this time he returns to the girl mentioned above.
Here's my AIBU, he wants me to stop our dc seeing her. They don't want to, they adore her, she is a decent person. He is in a toxic relationship involving drink, fighting with gf, he's a mess.
He wants them to want to see him but they don't, the trust has gone. He can't cope with my dds radio silence she has blocked him from her life. She is 13.
He's abusive to me and a narcissist, he's losing friends rapidly but his family believe his lies.
Sorry for the essay, AIBU?