To be getting stressed over his family.

[Twounder1]

So following ds' birth, we made it incredibly clear we wanted no visitors. We had a very nasty virus as it was an like my name says, at that point two kids under one.

So no visitors. DP's side took that badly and didn't respect our wishes. I've posted in here before about it. We mainly kept them at bay because when we had dd, they wouldn't leave us alone. They told me I looked awful, wouldn't give her back to breastfeed etc. Just a nightmare. Dp did take over this time as he needed his privacy with ds to bond because both have really struggled with one another.

Anyway. DP's nan came over a few weeks ago and started effing and blinding saying his cousins said they were pissed off they weren't invited over. (I want to add this was when ds was 3 weeks old. He's now 6 weeks) also, they were pissed off because we hadn't messaged them straight away when he was born. (shoulder dystocia birth, doctors were a bit worried) dp did message them, I was in no place to and they even messaged me congratulations. I hadn't announced his arrival over social media so obviously, he'd told them.

Anyway, this has caused a rift between dp and his family as he's apparently the one who needs to invite them over and make ammends. I'm equally as pissed off. There was no thought and we had constant abuse and had to give explanations as to why we wanted no visitors for a while. But the cheek to cause drama and say we hadn't told them has really annoyed and upset us. It's shit stirring.
It was dds birthday an they didn't bother to send a card.

So a week ago dp attempted to patch it up and asked them to meet us.
They declined the offer with a really snarky reply.

Today he told me he's done with them. But then there's a case of his nan who's unwell and wants things to be patched up. She was actually the one contributing to all this drama too. But we will always make ammends with her, she is all he has aside from me and our dcs.

Wwyd? Is it unreasonable to go nc for this? He's sick of it as he lost his mom at a young age and was constantly bullied by his family and told his family wished it was him instead of his mom. I'm disgusted.

I don't think I see the whole story but I do sympathise. I also see how hurtful it can appear and difficult to understand when there's a new baby in the world but you're asked not to visit. However, it's the new parent's wishes and that should be respected. But, I think they probably feel a bit put out and can see why they sent nothing for the birthday. I also think you don't totally have the right to feel upset that they have refused your olive branch as it were, as they are maybe seeing it like you are picking and choosing when you are in contact and I can see that can be hurtful.
So it's a bit of a mish mash and I can see both sides. Communication is the key, I hope you can all get together at some point and iron everything out.

His family sound disgusting. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to cut them off, they wished him dead!