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AIBU?

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She judged me!

17 replies

Elsaitsme · 15/05/2018 23:06

I took dd (nearly 3) to a national trust park for a little picnic this afternoon as the sun finally came out. We had our 2 golden retrievers with us and dd was throwing a ball for them and running around with the dogs chasing her, this woman with her ds was literally staring at me the whole time I thought maybe it was because dd was squealing/laughing so I sat her down to have lunch. Then this woman comes over to me and tells me how irresponsible I am to let these big dogs play with my daughter as they could hurt her and could I put them on the lead as they are making her feel uncomfortable because she has her son with her, she also told me I should have washed dd’s hands before we ate and then mumbled something about that’s what you get from a teenage mum! Not only is that incredibly insulting for young mums but I’m 28!!!
I was kind of in shock but I politely told her I knew how to look after my own daughter and she went off in a huff.
My points are; we were in an area where dogs can be off the lead, my dogs went nowhere near her or her son, they are totally trustworthy with my daughter and any other children, where am I supposed to wash her hands in the middle of a forrest? Was I bu?

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LoveInTokyo · 15/05/2018 23:11

I think I would have covered my daughter’s ears and told her to go f**k herself. You were more restrained.

havanagilahava · 15/05/2018 23:13

It's the National Trust for goodness sake.

The sort of people who have dangerous dogs are - I think I can say - not the sort of people who frequent NT properties.

YANBU. If you go to an NT property with a garden on a sunny day, there are going to be dogs.

pumpkintree · 15/05/2018 23:15

I heard a woman ask another woman who was shouting similar to your story " Did thag make you feel better."
I like to see how many times i can get them to repeat themselves.

Puffycat · 15/05/2018 23:15

First off she paid you a compliment, teenager haha!😉
2nd, you could use one of those had sanitizer sprays, not just the dogs but generally playing outside, mud, bogies etc
3rd I agree with LoveinTokyo tell her to fuck right off

Luisa27 · 15/05/2018 23:18

I’d have told her to fuck off

Well actually- I’d probably have said “please go away you repulsive woman”

hampsteadholly · 15/05/2018 23:19

Like @LoveInTokyo I would have told her to go fuck herself. I don't like dogs but it's nothing to do with her.

Haffiana · 15/05/2018 23:20

She will probably still be cutting grapes for her son when he is 18...

statetrooperstacey · 15/05/2018 23:21

U should have thrown your bottle of white lightening at her and stubbed your rollie out on her Birkenstocks.
That's what I would have done.
It's the only reasonable response.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 15/05/2018 23:23

You dare having those most beastly and dangerous Golden Retrievers within a mile of a child?

I’m off to log it with 101.

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 15/05/2018 23:23

Wipe DD's hands, wipe the dogs' face, wipe your own and proffer a polite thankyou/kiss on cheek for her sage advice whilst you are still a teenager (all with same wipe). Then grab a sandwich with your doggy hand and smear it on your face.

Id never have the balls to do it (Id love to do so, though) but its none of her business. Id would just be mindful that whilst dogs may be allowed off the lead, you still have to be in control of them. Im not saying you werent, but... some people can be arses.

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 15/05/2018 23:25

Take the teenager compliment!!!

Mueslibox · 15/05/2018 23:26

I thought it was much better for kids to not be so scrubbed clean and that rolling around outside and having a dog hb the family were big contributors to autoimmune/allergy health?

DramaAlpaca · 15/05/2018 23:27

I'd have told her to mind her own business. Cheeky mare.

MsGameandWatching · 15/05/2018 23:29

I'd have told her to mind her own business, repeatedly, steadily increasing in volume till she did. I've done it before.

Perfectly1mperfect · 15/05/2018 23:29

Assuming your dogs were not causing any danger to anyone then the only thing I would have heard her say was 'blah, blah, blah....you look so young for your age'. Lol.

What moisturiser do you use OP ?

UserV · 15/05/2018 23:39

Why do you care about what a nobody who you don't know thinks or says?

YABU. Get over yourself!!!

PinkGinFreak · 15/05/2018 23:45

Im surprised a stranger would come up to you and comment on you not washing your own daughters hands, that's a bit odd, but I can understand her feeling nervous about the dogs. We now have 3 dogs but I remember before we had them, when my youngest 2 were little, going somewhere where other peoples dogs were off lead in close proximity made me feel nervous cos I didn't know them (the dogs) or how they were around kids they didn't know, and would have one eye on them constantly, not really able to relax.

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