I think IABU but I don’t get this ...

[MrsDylanBlue]

People who have really difficult pregnancies.

I know someone, she isn’t a close friend.

She has been on crutches every pregnancy and had HG and has just had her 5th child.

Constantly posts on FB about awareness of all the issues she has while pregnant and revels in what a hero she is.

When you have four young children why would you continue to have more children when you are completely debilitated for 9 months.

I probably ABU - I still don’t get it.

"It’s her business, not yours."

Why so snippy?

This woman has chosen to get pregnant 5 times. It is human nature to judge. I know someone who had very high risk pregnancies. Doctors advised her that getting pregnant with number 3 after two horrific pregnancies was very risky. Not just for her health, but for her life. She went on to have two more children and nearly died as a result.

This I just simply don't understand. It puts the burden on other people (and the tax payer)

I know someone who has 5 children, each born before 30 weeks, weighing mere pounds.

Each one stayed in hospital for months, can’t understand why she has continued to have them when each pregnancy has been touch and go.

I get the issues you describe in your OP when I’m pregnant and have decided after 2 kids, there’s no way I could have another. In fact, to fall pregnant again would be pretty devastating for me however, I would’ve loved a big family and wish I was brave enough to do it all again. It might be difficult to understand (I don’t know why you’d want to put yourself through it again) but ultimately it’s her choice to have as many kids as she likes.

Why do you need to make people “aware of how it can be”.

Because the level of ignorance surrounding just how awful pregnancy can be is astonishing.

She's sharing it on FB, she's made it other people's business.

If people want the support of your close friends, they really should do a 2 tier FB friends so that they don't overshare with people that they're not that close with. THAT's the real problem here. She's made a personal choice (that I completely don't understand, but it's still HER choice), but then she ALSO chose to share it with the everyone on her FB friend's list, which I'm guessing hasn't been kept to a select few.

Some people feel they have to for religious or cultural reasons.

I had two high-risk pregnancies, ended up on crutches then wheelchair bound with both pregnancies and kept in hospital for bedrest for 6 weeks at the end of my 2nd pregnancy. I was told that if I tried to have a third I would be wheelchair bound for the rest of my life ( because of the damage that had already been done to my pelvis). My little boy was only 2 when I was hospitalised for 6 weeks and was completely traumatised.

My husband and I decided there and then that two was enough and it would be unfair to our children to put them through this again. My DH asked his GP for a vasectomy before our little girl was born, DD was barely a month old when it came through. We have no regrets.

I think that risking your life when you have little ones at home relying on you/ who need you is selfish. Saying that no contraception is fool-proof and I would not judge anyone for choosing to continue with a pregnancy (it is what I would do).

I was told by my g.p that it was possible that in my second pregnancy I would not be bothered with SPD. Unfortunately, my SPD was a good deal worse and started a good deal earlier. So perhaps they were advised that their pregnancy would be fine.